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writes:How do you ask out a person that you've known for 5 or 6 years? If she says no, will the friendship end? Will she hate me? Reply to this Question
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reader, PartyDown +, writes (28 December 2008):
PartyDown is verified as being by the original poster of the questionurbanking99, thanks for the advice.
I'm not a coward at all. I'm not really afraid of anything except murky water. Asking someone out, in a comparison, is my murky water. I understand where you are coming from how basically the world goes round if people ask people out (it's kind of generically speaking but the point is clear). I have really cold feet when it comes to this sort of stuff. I've only had one experience with dating. I asked someone out my freshman year. We went on one date and then I broke up with her. She then hates me and has hated me to this day :). I don't know why. Breaking up was a horrible experience for me and it ruined the friendship for years to come. That's what I'm afraid of.
SCENARIO (not real): I ask her out. She says yes. I'm happy. 3 months go by and I realize she is a self centered egotistical maniac with a thirst for cash and all my attention. I want to break up and against her will she unhappily succumbs and forfeits her title of "(Name)'s Girlfriend". She then will hate me. AND!! What makes it worse is that we are in the same grade and will be stuck with each other for the next "X" amount of years.
Now, do you understand where I'm coming from? Sorry that it's a big wall of text.
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reader, urbanking99  +, writes (27 December 2008):
Only one way - ask her out on an official date.
Why would she hate you? Hate is a very strong word to use in this instance. She may be surprised that you want more from her than she realised. In this world you don't get if you don't ask, and if you don't ask you will never know.
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