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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:I've been dating this girl for three months after it started one night when she sent me a drunken message saying that she had fancied me for ages. I had feelings for her at this point but I didn't know what these feelings were. We've been dating for three months but still haven't kissed, which is due to dating in public, but both being female. She told me the other night that she loves me, and while I maybe think this is a bit soon, I can't deny that I'm completely head over heels and I really want to talk to her about exclusivity. But I don't really know how to bring this up. Do you think it's too soon, and if not, how would I bring it up?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (15 April 2016):
 You need to kiss her first. Maybe you're just good friends? You need to have a kiss to tell if it's romance or just friendship. Good friends can also love one another.
Also, it's been three months and no kiss... This indicates that neither of you are actually sexually interested in one another. Even if you have been dating in public, you could have found a secluded spot. Or hidden behind a corner. Or arranged a more private date. The fact that this hasn't happened yet makes me think neither of you actually want a relationship with one another. You just like the idea of a relationship.
So if you actually DO want a relationship with her, and you want exclusivity, then you NEED TO KISS HER FIRST.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (15 April 2016):
 You say that you are dating this girl for three months and you haven't even kissed yet??? It doesn't sound like dating to me. Okay so you are both female but I don't see why that would stop you from being intimate? Are you sure you are both on the same page? You both want a relationship? I think you need to take some time to talk to each other, I mean yes you may love each other, but what about the intimate side of things? If you feel it is a bit soon for love that is okay you don't need to say it back to her, however you do both need to talk about what you want.
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reader, Denizen +, writes (15 April 2016):
 You really can't put shackles on people. Either they want a monogamous relationship or they don't. And I don't really think you can call it dating if you haven't even had a kiss. What's the saying? Where there's a will there's a way?
Are you certain that you aren't being played for a fool?
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reader, wrathykins +, writes (15 April 2016):
 If it feels like the right time, then go for it. She obviously has strong feelings for you! Just officially ask her to be your girlfriend!
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