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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2011): I Am a 51 year old female, My Partner Is 33, We Have A Great Relationship,I Love And Respect Him So Much We Can Talk For Hours, And The Sex Is The Best I Have EVER Had!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2011): We have been in love since the day we mat 7 years ago. He is 47 and I am 80. He wanted to marry me but I couldn't get past the age difference. I shold have done it when he asked, as I feel I am really too old now. He is so caring and loving and I am so happy with him. Neither of us are married, but we both have children and there lies the rub. Children cannot see past the age difference.
If you love him, fight for him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2011): Ages depend on the maturity of the individuals. I am a 63 yr old female married to a 45 yr old male. We have been together for 19 years (married for 11 this year).
It works!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2011): no its not at all a big gap in fact if his friends dont like it maybe he needs new friends in fact im 28 and my girlf friend is 47 talk about a gap there but we get along just fine its her kids that have problems execting me but it your mate loves you enough then it dont matter how old you are as long as there is love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2011): 17years here but she left for the age difference after 20yrs
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reader, elissa_20  +, writes (10 January 2011):
I think if that if you're happy and your partner is happy age doesnt matter my boyrfriend is 33 and i am 17, we stared seeing each other when i was 16 but i am alot more mature for my age and am at the same stage as my boyfriend the only thing that makes our relationship a huge stuggle is that we are doing long distance at the moment because we werent sure if it wgas legal or not and are surviving the wait for each other :) its already been 11 months apart its hard but its worth the wait. i say GO FOR IT! dont wait around worrying what people think. love is love :)
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reader, beautifulrj  +, writes (22 November 2009):
 I'm 21 now and my partner for 3 great years is 47 years older than me. If you'll gonna ask me why, I would say all I know for real is that I love him and he loves me too! I don't love him because of money... I love him not for who is he but who I am when I'm with him. We really love each other though we know that people aren't in favor of it, but who are they for us to think of how they think about us? they won't gonna make me happy anyway! If people will just remove the barrier set by the society, all they will see are two people truly and deeply in love with each other. so to the ones who have the same story as I am just go for it and make yourself happy, as long as you're not hurting anybody just do it... just make sure it is base from love!!! God bless...:)
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reader, heavenorhell  +, writes (10 July 2009):
My happiest relationship had an age gap with nearly 5 years, and Im almost 18, it doesnt matter how old they are, its the person you like go for it
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2009): I'm a 41 year old woman in love with a friend of mine who is 26. It's absurd?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2009): Dont worry about it. I'm currently seeing a 45 year old guy who i love to pieces and im 17. We've been together now for about 11 months and it doesnt bother me that we have such an age gap. We'd be together more if we could but due to other issues (which i arent going to mention) no1 knows about it and it breaks my heart that i cant talk about the relationship to him and no1 else. I wish we could go public but it would be a bad idea, not even my parents knw about it. I only get to see him during the weekends and we both wish we could see a lot more of each other during the week...but as we say "distance only makes the heart grow stronger"
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reader, cin  +, writes (15 May 2009):
i am 45yrs old an guys that are 25 are asking me out. An there fun. so 2 years difference is nothing, enjoy yourself you only have one life. you are the one in the relationship not his friends or yours
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reader, SeriouslyStephanie +, writes (22 January 2009):
 Age gaps are ok to a certain degree. Here's what I think...I am currently 16. I have recently split up with my partner who is 27 (he was 26 when we were together). At first I thought age gaps don't matter as age is just a number. I have always gone for older men, and was dating a 21 year old when I was just 14. Looking back now, I think it is sick for a man of 21 (nearly 22) to look at a 14 year old girl in that way and have a sexual relationship with her. However, with my most recent relationship there were more problems to it. Part of the problem was that he was very immature for a 26 year old however, as we were both at very different stages of our lives it did not work (I am still a teenager, going through all the teenage hormone stuff and he is a grown man who is meant to have responsibilities but just shrugs them off). I think that there is a definite limit to the age gap theory. For example if a man of 30 was to date a 16 year old girl (or indeed a woman of 30 dating a 16 year old boy) it would be more inappropriate than a man/woman of 40 dating a man/woman of 25. When both parties are over 18 (in some cases 21) it is a different story than if one party is under 18 and the other well into their adulthood. I think anyone who thinks that a 14 year old girl going out with a man in his 20's (or even if he's just 19) is not right. At 14/15/16 - sometimes eve 17 - you are still a CHILD. There are reasons why there are laws on drinking in pubs (18 in UK) - because you are not MATURE enough. So what makes it acceptable for a man of 19/20 to be dating a CHILD who is not yet allowed in the pubs for another FOUR YEARS?I know a lot of that may not have made sense but seriously, age gaps are fine in ADULTHOOD. Not when one party is a CHILD.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2008): 20 years.
It's an age gap. And a big one.
But, I'm happy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2008): Well i am 17 and i've fancied women of many different ages,including someone who is now 61.That's a 44 year age differnce and it's quite big.But i would say the limit is a 50 year age gap,for me.Think about it,anything less than that is fine either way!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2008): Age ant noting but a number..... My 5 year olds dad is two years yoner than me I'm 27, he walked out when I was 3 months pregnant. Still has not come to see his boy. Two years after my son was borne I met a man who is now 41.. He has looked after me and my son sine then!!
He is there for my son even though we have split up after 3 years.
I am now with a recently divorced 50 year old, the passion is elctric!! Go for it all you women who feel the passion of an older man!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2008): I am 34, divorced...but still very good friends with my ex-wife of 10 years altogether. I (we) have learned a lot from that experience and I'd say that I grew more during that time in my life than any other. Current time...I wasn't "looking" for someone as I am still a bit scared of losing again. I might also mention the reason that my Ex and I mutually decided to separate and eventually divorce was because she wanted children and I just wasn't ready. She knew this from the beginning of our relationship but admittedly thought I'd change my mind. I still love her very much and she is due to have a child at anytime with her boyfriend who is a mutual friend of ours in Asheville, NC....in the next few weeks!! I am VERY happy for her....but I digress.
I hadn't dated in about 3 years but being a human being, I did have certain experiences that, in hindsight, was bad judgement.... because I hadn't had enough time to heal. I met my current partner at my job and had NO idea that our age gap was 15 years. And she had no idea I was 34....and everyone thinks that I physically look about 20 to 25 years old. I suppose that's a good thing?
We certainly have different life experiences and are not in sync with each other on many levels. By default, I have a certain right of passage and am able to offer some good advice should she ask or should I feel compelled to give my two cents. I have learned so much from her and I look forward to learning more. And I offer her insight that she might not be able to get otherwise.
I am disgusted over the quick labeling of pedophilia (read on several sites) because of age differences for ANYONE in this situation. I have NEVER ONCE found younger women...or young girls to be a turn on in any way, shape or form. Where is empathy and the understanding that love is often blind and, evidently, can't count very well either. Age aside, ANY relationship takes communication, patience, empathy, genuine concern and a desire to survive in this fickle and sexually pressured world we live in. I am her friend and confidant as she is mine and am proud of surviving (some) furled brows and negative comments regarding our relationship. I am a good man and I know where I need improvement in my life and am still growing and understanding the comedy and drama that IS life. My "age gapped" relationship is teaching me more than I could have ever imagined and am thankful for every second that I'm involved. I am also very thankful that I have met such a thoughtful, loving and mature woman to share my life, my fears and dreams with indefinitely.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2008): I am 35 and have a very good friend who is 18, she would like to be more than friends but im old enough in theory to be her father, so i always shrug it off. in my opinion a large age gap will never work because you will always be at different stages of your lifes and have different needs at different times to your partner. It can't work.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2008): im 18 and my boyfriend is 25.. and we are so in love.. things are going great and it couldnt get better.. we never fight or argue... if anyone has a problem with age differences, think about it... it is only a number...
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2008): that is nothing!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2008): 2 1/2 years is nothing, what about how i feel towards a 19 year old, never thought i`d feel the way i do about anyone but then she came along. We spoke about it and i told her the age thing will never work but then she says she never met anyone like me and that age doesn`t mattter. We have never had sex only kissed even though we`ve known each other nearly a year. Is there anyone out there in a similar situation.?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2007): im 22 years old and my boyfriend is 37/8 and we have been together for least 7 muoths and he loves me so much and wants to have a future.im happy to have him, he is my sole mate and my life partner
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2007): Well I am 19 and my partner is 55! We're v.happy together and we get on really well! :-) Age is just a number, if anyone doesn't like it..it's there problem and they'll have to just deal with it! :-) This is the 21st century! xoxox
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2007): i am 14 dateing a 19 year old im not so sure wat to do i really think u sould not care i would not know what to do with out my boyfriend u sould not even care about people say or think about u and ur boyfriend like i said i love my friend so much u could not even understand how much i care for my boyfriend and tell his friends to get a life becaues if it was the othere way around and he was dateing a youner girl they would say sore u reaolly got game so who cares wat they say ....
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2007): I am 36 an interested in someone who is 62yrs old. We are very good friends and have got to know each other very good from working together. We have so much in common. We could talk for hours and hours and it feels like the clock hasn't moved. I feel so good with him, we have such a strong connection that when I leave him and I don't see him, I physically hurt. There is a strong attraction but the friendship and respect are what really make me care for him so much. I never imagined I could care for someone so much older. He is my Dad's age.
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reader, bexs +, writes (29 August 2007):
This sight has really help me! Im 21 and my partner of 3 brilliant years is 47. I We had recently broken up due to the effects of what societly/ family put on you... I have had everybody's opinion on our relationship, which to be honest made me have my doubts and resivations and challenged what i feels right over what people want or say is right, but through it all... i realised the only thing i learn't from leaving him for 2 months was love should/ will always win because being away from him is how much i love him as it has been the worse thing i could ever have been through... the point is... you really can't help who you love! And you have to live for yourself and who you love...each other, because your the only ones who are truly going to be there for each other and at the end of the line! Its your life nobody elses!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2007): Don't worry about it.Of corse it doesn't matter! My boyfriend is 5 years older then me my mum didn't like it at first but she realized how much we where in love and has finally come round to us.As long as your happy then that's good :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2007): Age doesn't matter I am 37 and my fiancee is 28. We love each other ....this is what matters not peoples opinion
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2007): Well, I am 21 and my boyfriend of 2 years is 45. The age gap is very large between us, but we love each other for who we are. As everyone else has said, age doesnt matter (so long as you're both legally consenting adults). I hope you two are both very happy together :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2007): I am 16, and I have a HUGE crush on a 24 year old. I like to think that there may be a chance for us to be together, since last year, when I was 15, a 23 year old had a cruish on me. So I know its possible. Thats an 8 year gap. My best friend almost dated a guy 8 years older. So, I really dont think that 2 1/2 years is a big deal AT ALL. besides. My parents were 4 years apart. My best friends parents were 13 years aprt.age really isnt that big of an issue.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2007): i think your worrying over nothing. I'm 16 and my partner is 28, I've always liked older guys, they bring excitment to the relationship, and im sure a younger guy for you will bring excitment into your love life...
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2006): are you kidding? He's 2.5 years younger than you? If his friends don't approve, they're psychotic...men out there are pedophiles dating ten and twenty, sometimes thirty years younger than them. Its a shame though, because they don't realize the young girls they are with will be looking else where for sex with hot young supple boys/men closer to their own age, guys who don't need to pop a pill to get a huge, amazing mouth watering erection.
That, and if they have kids together, the kids will be fatherless when they're really quite young.
Its completely unnatural for men to date women more than 7 years younger than them because nature doesn't allow you to live forever and young people aren't attracted to old spotted balding men....just they're wallets.
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reader, xxcat +, writes (1 September 2006):
 its only 2.5 years thats no problem, perhaps his m8's dont want him to av a girlfriend, god i wnt out with a man 10 yrs younger, my partner now is 8 yrs older than me,take no notice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2006): I'm 17 years older than my boyfriend...big deal..so his friends are jerks
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2006): 2.5 years isnt an age gap..lol my fiancee is 37 and im 21 and are very happy. we have been together for over a year and cant imagine loving anyone else. If your happy and are willing to make the relationship work then thats all that matters.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2006): What!you need to take a good look around you,2 1/2 is nothing,i wouldn't eithen call it an age gap to be honest.Im 21 and my boyfriend is 47-do i care-hell no i bloody love the man.You are 28 years old please act like it.
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (3 July 2006):
 2 and half years is not that big an age gap... I'm 31 my partner is 34 .. to us thats pretty normal! I cant see how anyone would frown at the age difference in the slightest... in any case... whats it got to do with anyone else.. of your happy sod what other people think... thats really not what I would call an age gap! Why dont his friends approve ? I dont see why though.. so hes like 25 nearly 26 and your 28 wow big difference aint it... its probably more over they are jealous, let them get on with it! Sad if they think its a big age gap they probably havent got girlfriends and are jealous that he has!
Ignore them, and do whats right for you and dont worry about what others think, its you two that make each other happy.
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reader, David Lewis +, writes (2 July 2006):
 Who cares what people think?.
I am 29, my fiancee is 16.
We are completely in love and past the,'but what will the neighbours say?' stage.
If you really love the guy, age is but a number.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2006): I was trying to hook up with someone from the United Kingdom who was 50 and I am 19. Is this OK, even though she would be about 3x my age. I think 80 is the maximum. I like relationships with huge age gaps. It is very sexy!!!!!!! I get very horny just thinking about it!!!!
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reader, luckyguy +, writes (9 June 2006):
i have a 16 year age gap, i'm 36 she's 19. and we are as happy as punch!! and have been since we first got it on 11 months ago, we are in each others pockets all the time, don't worry
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2006): 2 years an age gap?! Thats normal! Hardly any couple out there is exactly the same age. 2 years is perfect.
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reader, Kay R +, writes (28 October 2005):
Age doesn’t mean anything in a relationship. As long as you are pleased and he will always look after you and adore you, then age doesn’t imply anything.
Kay
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reader, Kay-the-Cloud +, writes (24 October 2005):
As long as you're happy, who cares?!
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reader, QOTU +, writes (24 October 2005):
 Cupid was painted blind... Age doesn't matter when you're both legally adults. ;-)
~QOTU
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2005): thanks delilah, i asked him and he said he knows his friends are a bit standoffish with me primarily because they are a bit insecure, but not about my age, more likely about the fact that im finishing a phd while they haven't in addition apparently i am of a different background(personally i dont think it should matter, whether i've gone further or have a different background) but once they get to know me they will love me, but i have to wait and see, i really do want them to at least get to know my first but will have to just wait.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2005): are you kidding? 26 and 28 ? hell no! 15 and 17 is an age gap! 20 and 30 is an age gap! 26 and 28 is not an age gap.
By the way, who the hell cares? if you care for him, if you can connect with him emotionally, spiritually, and intellectually, if you enjoy being around him... then whats the problem?
Personally only one thing matters: Do I like being around him. Everything else will sort themselves out.
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reader, Delila +, writes (27 September 2005):
Hi,
Are you sure that it is an age gap issue? 2 and a 1/2 years is hardley worth talking about. I would find out a bit more about why exactly his friends don't approve, that is if you are so bothered. Personally I couldn't care less myself. I think there is more to this than meets the eye.
Delila
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reader, aunt april +, writes (27 September 2005):
21/2 years is not a big gap at all i know couples who have 10 and 15 years between them so i woudent worry much about it your not dating his friends so you shoudent care what they think as long as you and you boyfriend are happy.
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