New here? Register in under one minute   Already a member? Login239833 questions, 1060661 answers  

  DearCupid.ORG relationship advice
  Got a relationship, dating, love or sex question? Ask for help!Search
 New Questions Answers . Most Discussed Viewed . Unanswered . Followups . Forums . Top agony aunts . About Us .  Articles  . Sitemap

How long should you wait before you tell someone you love them?

Tagged as: Dating, Teenage<< Previous question   Next question >>
Question - (18 September 2008) 7 Answers - (Newest, 18 September 2008)
A female United Kingdom age 26-29, *ovesickpup writes:


i just have a question really as you know i havestarted seeing a lad 1 year and 37 days younger than me. my question is how long in peoples opinion should you wait before you tell someone you love them?

please give me some advice on this.


lovesickpup x x x

<-- Rate this Question

Reply to this Question


Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question!

A male reader, WiredReds United States +, writes (18 September 2008):

Tell them, ASAP! You wait too long and they'll be wanting someone else, thinking you aren't interested in furthering the relationship. I know from experience that waiting too long will have you regretting it for a long time.

<-- Rate this answer

A male reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2008):

Man should lead.

<-- Rate this answer


A female reader, Dear Danielle United Kingdom +, writes (18 September 2008):

Dear Danielle agony auntIn my opinion there is never a rite time tell him you love him when you no its real and you think he feels the same way tell him he might be holdin bak not telling you cos he might be waiting 4 you to tell him first

If you love him tell him im sure he'll appricioate it alot


Danielle xoxoxox

<-- Rate this answer


A female reader, MuffinGirl Netherlands +, writes (18 September 2008):

MuffinGirl agony auntI think most of people tell their partners they love way too soon. Sometimes love doesn't have nothing to do with sentence "i love you" because some people think they just have to tell this their partners only because they feel this sentence is their obligation in every relationship. The other people just think they love somebody too soon. They don't ask themself questions like: Am I really honest to this person? Do I really know this person? Do i trust him/her? Isn't it only a crush? My personal opinion is that relationships needs more time to develope. Love is too strong word to say in a first month. Sometimes it's really depends on case, but you just can't love everyone you've been dating.

My suggestion is wait until the right moment. Ask yourself questions above and you'll find the right answer. If you really feel such a strong emotionals to your guy then tell him! Be ready to any answer and if you're still not completly sure about his love, then wait few more weeks. It doesn't matter he's younger than you, just wait until the moment when you will honestly feel you love him.

<-- Rate this answer


A female reader, Emilysanswers United Kingdom +, writes (18 September 2008):

Tell them you love them once you know you are in love with them.

It's a risk so you may also want to wait and see if they are in love with you too.

You can't put a time frame on falling in love.

The trick is being able to recognise love from lust and infatuation and companionship.

Good Luck!! xx

<-- Rate this answer


A male reader, saltwater United Kingdom +, writes (18 September 2008):

saltwater agony auntI don't think there is a set time -- you do it when you feel ready.

You're still young, so you have to be sure that the person you're telling it to understands that you *love* them...and that they won't interpret it as a casual "I love you!" that many teens band around these days without understanding the meaning that it should imply.

You both have to be mature to say it and understand its full meaning.

If you feel he's mature enough to understand, then you can do it when you're ready.

Take care.

<-- Rate this answer


A female reader, Aunty Em United Kingdom +, writes (18 September 2008):

Aunty Em agony auntI don't believe there is a time limit to be honest. Say it when you know you're experiencing that feeling - and are pretty sure he does too.

<-- Rate this answer


Add your answer to the question "How long should you wait before you tell someone you love them?"

Already have an account? Login first
Don't have an account? Register in under one minute and get your own agony aunt column - recommended!

All Content Copyright (C) DearCupid.ORG 2004-2008 - we actively monitor for copyright theft