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How long should a male last in sex? Any tips on lasting longer?

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Question - (1 October 2006) 12 Answers - (Newest, 20 August 2009)
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How long should a male last in sex? also what techniques could you apply to last longer

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A male reader, macaholic United States +, writes (20 August 2009):

Well i dont claim to be an expert but i have had sex with with many partners, some i knew and some i dont remember their names,but all in all ive had sex that last 2 mins and sex that last 2 hrs, it all has to do with the situation and your frame of mind and personal outlook on your partner. Another factor that plays a roll in premature ejactulation, or a marrathon is alchol, drugs or prescription meds, all of the above have an effect on your abillity to focus, or control your ability to withold. basicly its all a mind game with yourself. my personal asvise is to decide what you are trying to accomplish before you start,

if your completly sober and your about to get some strange, then focus on the forplay make sure that her legs squeeze the shit out of your head before you come up for air, then go to the pounding, but try not to think about pounding a new peice, or your gona blow before she relizes your there.

if your a little buzzed, ive found that foreplay is not quite as important but still a good idea, when your buzzed you can talk yourself out of cumming just by not thinking about it, however be carefull not to ignore her emotionlay or she will feel like your just pumping her hole, which yu might be dooing but maintain some affection or atleast talk to her, doesnt matter if your realy thinking about that speed boat that you want, just alternate emotions and thoughts,another important thing to do is change rhythem and stroke depth, if you feel like your gona blow and your not ready then pull out and start licking the pie or have her suck the pole, either will hault the climax, once your ready to start again go back to the pounding, and change possitions frequently, (not evry minute) but about three minutes is good for one possition, move on to somthing else, dont worrie about coming back to one youve already been through just doo it again its still different than what you were just dooing.

i have found that time is not so much a factor, i can make most any woman climax in about 5-10 mins sometimes as little as 2-4 mins, all depends on the woman and how long its been for her, nothing ive written is a gurentee but just a lil helpfull info, best of luck and good fucking.

by the way if your plasterd, fucked up, of just plain gone dont bother embarising yourself

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A female reader, Aunt ~ Em United Kingdom +, writes (27 October 2008):

Aunt ~ Em agony auntIt varies. And I wouldn't put it down to experience or age, everyone's different.

Although, the saying will always be - practice makes perfect. It's never plain and simple with a new partner. Learn what feels good, focus on them and it will stop you worrying about how excited you are. Take your time with everything. Focus on foreplay, change positions, vary the depth of your thrusts. Having a "rhythm" going is almost necessary for an orgasm to happen in either the male or the female, so suddenly slow down, go deeper, or speed right up and only thrust a few inch or so. Keep her stimulated with your thumb or... well... whatever you like really. You'll be more relaxed knowing that she's enjoying all your thoughtful attentions and you're lasting twice as long.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2008):

dude,i personally find that going slow and not tightening ur wank when u make love helps u to last longer,also drink a red bull and eat a banana

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2008):

Have a wank discreetly before sex (I usually pretend I'm going to toilet). Then on return pleasure your girl without letting her pleasure you, as you'll be floppy. Then when your back up, get it poppin!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2008):

my boyfriend is also worried about this.

It depends on age, whether you're under the influence of alcohol and under what circumstances.

younger males (primarily teenagers) have more problem lasting, whereas this problem decreases with age.

The 'squeeze' techinique is supposed to work well, and masturbation before sex increases lasting time.

Hope that helps x

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2007):

Have a wank before!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2007):

dont use pills becuse once u stop usinng them the stamina and all of that stops with it. u can last longer if u have confidenc that u can satisfy her. use a toy on her till she is ready then join in. u will have satisfed her thus subconchesly u fill GOOD and your mind will releve the anxity of not being abal to satisfy her in tern your body natraly will produs stamina and thing will work out. trust me i have had this hapin. time to last is up to her on avreg 20 to 45 min.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2006):

the important things is you must enjoy the girls first and control ur orgasm..by stopping and wait ur partner blows up and hug u tightly then that is the signal that a man will blow his own

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A female reader, sleepysly +, writes (5 October 2006):

sleepysly agony aunthello,well im no expert but i have heard that if you massage yourself daily not to get an errection but to know your manhood and notice how the different muscles work. practice getting to climax but then stopping short. this might help. perhaps while making you should withdraw and get pleasure from touching to make the event last. good luck

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A male reader, Ponungalungb United States +, writes (2 October 2006):

Ponungalungb agony auntIf you think about something other than what you're doing when you feel like you're about ready to come, that sometimes works. Like, think about your 80 year-old grandmother. That will put the breaks on many a pre-mature blast off.

If you want to know a good time frame, wait until your girlfriend comes. If she's satisfied, you can assume it's O.K. to let her rip. Or, if you want to come simultaneously, you can tell when she's ready to climax and join her. Timing is everything.

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A female reader, camille United Kingdom +, writes (1 October 2006):

camille agony auntTher is no definitive answer to the time. Some men only last seconds, some minutes, some hours....It's all relative and very varying. I guess you could put it around the 10-20 minute area including foreplay. There can be times when a quickie is all that's needed, when other times longer sex sessions. If lasting longer is what you're after, there are a few things you could try. The first one is to practice when masturbating to stop just before you feel you're going to ejaculate. Before penetrative sex, if you can perhaps give your partner lots of attention/foreplay but not get too stimulated yourself, this may make you last longer. Also during sex stop and wait, then carry on, it will prolong the time and in time, can improve your staying power. There are devices you can buy, like penis rings. If you put one on when you have an erection it will maintain it by slightly cutting off the blood supply and I hear it's also used when wanting longer sessions. There are natural herb remedies that you can buy as well as of course, the much publicised Viagra. I wouldn't suggest recreational drugs as they can have long term effects that will actually make the problem worse.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2006):

Men like things that fell good, or things really sexy and hard.

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