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writes:I'm 17 and i'm currently dating someone. when we're together, he tells me that he's horny and the next day, the feelings stay the same. How long do boys stay horny?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2010): In my experience, 90% of the time.
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (25 November 2010):
Hi there. Young boys from soon after puberty (about 14 years old or so), feel horny a lot of the time. The hormones in young men, are still reaching to their highest level, up until about 18 years of age. Eighteen years of age, being about the highest they are going to be.
So consequently, their whole philosophy on life is going to be very different then to another 10 years down the track.
Him feeling horny all the time now, is normal for a young man his age. He's fast approaching the age of 18, which I was just mentioning is the highest levels of the male hormone, testosterone - the hormone responsible for sex drive, and all things masculine (hair on the face, chest, body, arms and legs, deep voice, adult body shape, muscular structure and strength etc.) He's going through some big changes in his body right now and the sex drive is simply part of the whole thing.
If you don't feel like having sex as much as him, you are just going to have to tell him so. Don't just go along with it, if it's not always what you want. This is an important part of all relationships - at all ages.
Don't be pressured into more sex just because he wants more. Over the years, the difference in sex drives in relationships, can be a problem for many couples - not just now in your late teens. It can be a problem throughout life - 20's, 30's, 40's and even 50's. Sex drives between couples are often going to vary due to - tiredness, unwellness, after an argument, a tough day at work, just many many things. So don't be too concerned about why it's happening.
In this case it's definitely the stage of his development he's at right now.
Depending on whether it bothers him that he can't settle, and has to have a lot of sex, perhaps what he might try instead of just having sex, is going for a run for say 20 minutes. This will relax him more, so there's less of a feeling of urgency and it will reduce the restlessness he feels at those times.
You could talk to him about it anyway. Tell him that it is a bit of a problem to you, because you feel pressured to always have sex with him when he wants it - regardless of your needs at the time.
Unless you do discuss the matter with him, it will end up just annoying you and you might argue about it. For this reason, it's much better to air your thoughts on it now, and see how you can work things out between you. There needs to be some compromise here.
In answer to your original question - the title of this question - "How long do men stay horny?" -
- As long as they are reasonably fit and healthy
- The look after themselves with healthy food
- Sleep well
- Have a healthy zest for living and stay interested in life
- Have a positive attitude
- Have regular health checkups with their doctor (preventative medicine)
All their lives really, until their dying day. It's possible for men to have a normal sex life well into old age. Perhaps less frequency, but just as satisfying.
However, the peak hormone levels at 18 years old, then declines gradually over the years and stabilises more and the urgency for frequent sex won't be so pronounced over time.
Sex drives can vary within relationships. The quality of a relationship and how you feel about each other. The same man in a different relationship, might not have that affect quite so much. Different moods, life situations, so many other things also affect the sex drive regularly.
This stage your boyfriend is now in, is going to settle down eventually over the next few years. It won't stay like this forever.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2010): 47 years so far.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2010): ALL the time :P
but dont give into pressure !!!
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reader, soon567 +, writes (25 November 2010):
When a person is into you he’ll stay horny for you. Some people are just horny and it becomes a bigger factor than it should be. If his sexual appetite is more than you like it to be then you need to voice that without turn him off. A guy can have sex and within no time at all he’s horny again, this without the appropriate affection will become a chore to you. This will destroy feelings you have for him. He probably needs a girl that loves to have sex all the time as he does.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2010): Teenage boy = all day every day
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reader, MsVick +, writes (25 November 2010):
 At that age, all the time. If he keeps telling you about it, its his way for asking for sex without having to ask.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2010): I'm in my 30's and I'm horny pretty much all of the time when I'm with my girlfriend, not 100% of the time physically of course but mentally I'm pretty much always ready.
When I first start dating someone it's pretty much all the time physically (erection) as well as mentally, even just talking with no physical contact. Teenage boys are horny 24/7, we spend more time horny than any other state when we're teenagers and pretty much anything can make us horny.
FYI: when a guy tells you he's horny it means he wants you to do something about it, whether that's a good or bad thing is up to you to decide.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (25 November 2010):
All the time. But as chigirl says, if he's telling you all the time, then maybe all he wants is sex.
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reader, Love-Wisely +, writes (25 November 2010):
 Girls tend to get more and more horny over the years 18-35, but its generally the opposite for men. According to my Grandfather, he was horny until about 70-years old! When I was 16-24 years old, I was insanely horny. 5-times a day wasn't always enough.
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reader, Deeyawn +, writes (25 November 2010):
ALL THE TIME, Guys Will Pretty Much Always Horney (Im 18, I Would Know) Is He Romantic? I Good Man Will Express His Horneyness Through Romance If He Knows Whats Good For Him (At Least Most The Time) ^-^
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave +, writes (25 November 2010):
It's natural for boys to be horny a lot of the time, especially in their teens, so there is nothing to worry about.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (25 November 2010):
 Teenage boys? They stay horny pretty much 100% of the time. If he goes around telling you that though it sounds like he just wants you to have sex with him...
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reader, boogie4 +, writes (25 November 2010):
It depends on how much the guy is in to you. I've been with some women on a weekend night, only to have wished they left that night, because I didn't want to see them in the morning.
On the other hand, if you're into that person on more than just a physical level...you will stay in tune to that person, and be more "open" and attracted vis a vis "horny" - as you put it...
So, it depends...if you mean during one night, that ranges from two minutes to two hours.
If you mean overall, that's different. That's when you can't get enough.
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reader, DanceInTheDark  +, writes (25 November 2010):
 Forever.
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