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writes:How late is too late for guys to enter the dating game and start looking for a relationship.25? 30? 35?I mean, to really just START! Never been on a date before, and so on and so on.This could all be due to many combination of reasons: unfriendly environment, shyness, being busy with school and work, whatever. The reason I ask is nowadays it seems that 15 and 16 are the norm for males to start dating and experiencing relationships. What about us older guys, like 30 year olds for example. Is it too late to start? Do women go for the guys with more experience because they feel safer in the sense that their partner knows what they are doing? I ask because women my age are going to have lots more experience with dating and relationships, so would they expect me to also have experience?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2017): Never too late mate as long as you can draw their interest and atract them. I mean look at mick jagger. He is over 70 and still dating .
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  + ♥, writes (12 April 2017):
 You have a long way to go to your "best before" date yet!
I really can't add much to what has already been said because it is spot on, but just wanted to say this: dip your toe in the water, take things at the pace YOU are comfortable with and don't allow yourself to be pressured into doing anything before YOU are ready.
Good luck. There are a lot of lovely ladies out there, just waiting for the right man to come along. I hope you find someone who completes your life.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (12 April 2017):
 Oh yes, if you've never been on a date before in your life by 30, you are too late. So if someone asks you out, you will just have to say NO. Because it's too late. And if you meet someone nice, and get tempted to asking them out... better not!
Sorry, but I just had to ridicule this a bit. What you are asking is humorous. As if by a certain age you need to refrain from dating or trying to meet someone unless you've already done it before at least once.
No. Really. There is no such thing as "too late". It's too late if you are dead. Until then, as long as there are women left on the earth that are single and whom you find attractive, you have your choice of asking them out.
Will they expect a man with more experience? Probably, but only because the inexperience ones are rare. Will they prefer a more experienced man? Probably not. Women above 30 prefer a man with good qualities, and they in general like him to not have too much baggage.
The real question is, are you brave enough to start dating?
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (12 April 2017):
 Well said, Brown Wolf.
I don't really think there IS a cut-off date or "sell by date" where your chances for dating has expired.
It MIGHT be a little harder given that you have little to no experience in dating but there ARE women who are in the same boat as yourself, so I'd suggest you don't go for women with a LOT more experience than you but someone more your own speed. That way you can grow together.
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reader, Phil052 +, writes (12 April 2017):
 I think your lack of experience is of no consequence whatsoever, and 30 is a perfect age to get out there and date some women. If you find the right person your lack of experience will not matter at all. Good luck!
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reader, BrownWolf +, writes (12 April 2017):
30?? My man... you are right on time. :)
Actually...I believe men should start date after they are 25 years old...Why? Maturity.
Most men before 25 years old, have no freaking idea what to do with their own life, muchless look after the life and emotions of a woman.
Most women are 5 years ahead in maturity than men. So at 30...you should have learnt enough to know what you want in life, where you want your life to go, and what kind of woman you want to take on that ride.
Experience in dating has ABSOLUTELY NO affect on a long term relationship. If fact, it is a fantastic thing that you have no dating experience. Let me explain why?
One word....BAGGAGE!!! While you have been lucky enough to avoid break ups, and other unfortunate events in the dating life...the women you are about to meet may have more baggage than you can handle.
Baggage comes from being hurt by a guy, abuse, insecurities, and emotional scaring.
There is a very good reason why some cultures only allow dating to the man or woman they intended to be their life long partners. In the west we turn up our nose at such idea. But think about it...If you and your wife have no dating experience, and meet for the first time...you have the rest of your lives to build experiences together.
However...not so here.
Keep one thing in mind when dating...We men love to fix things, including the problem we find in women. Not all problems can be fixed. Do not get caught up in YEARS of trying fix someone who does not want to be fixed.
Look for someone who...even if she had a rough past...is willing to let it all go, and focus on loving you, and what you have together.
Love her first, Love her last, and never live in the past.
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