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writes:How far should someone hang their feelings out there before enough is enough.. Sadly i know the answer to my main question, but im asking for help anyway. Iet someone out of my life last year that i shouldnt have. She has a bf now, and we talk almost every day.. Ive seen her a few times and feelings are still there.. Its been 3 months and tho she says shes not happy she doesnt do anything about it.. My gut tells me im being played with.. That if she really cared she would have left already.. We have kissed.. And nothing more, but we talk every day and all shell ever tell me is how hard it is and she cant just leave.. Im having trouble letting go. I dont want to but its killing me i dont want To make the same mistake twice.. I let her go before because i wasnt ready and thought it was the right thing to do.. I just needed somewhere to vent.. I really dont want to think that someone i really care about is playing games.. Please advise.. My heads just not clear anymore :/ Reply to this Question
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reader, Miket389 +, writes (9 August 2011):
Miket389 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBoth good points.. I know shes scared ill do it again but the little sane part left tells me if things were really bad or she felt the same she would either do something about it, or be honest and say she cant and let me go.. I hope it clears up.. It sucks when something like this affects everyday life... Thanks again..
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reader, Miket389 +, writes (9 August 2011):
Miket389 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice.. I know thats what shes afraid of.. So ive just hung in and tried to show her its different this time. I guess well see what happens
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reader, Advice_man +, writes (9 August 2011):
 I've been through several similar situations my friend and unfortunately i was never wrong of what my instict was telling me. Girls have a talent messing with our minds.
In your case: I think this girl is playing with you. You sound like a decent guy and you are convenient to her. She loves her bf no matter what she says but she also likes you but doesn't see you as bf matterial. If you want to keep trying to get her, do that but don't excpect much to happen. I think you would be better off if you just kiss her goodbye and leave with dignity. Best wishes!
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reader, bebe87 +, writes (9 August 2011):
 I don’t doubt that she still has feelings for you, but it sounds like she wants her cake and wants to eat it too. While she is maintaining a relation with some other guy she keeps you on the side lines for her convenience and that just isn’t fair. It is pretty obvious something is lacking in her current relationship but that is for her to decide, if you are what she wants there will be and should be no problem making that happen that is if she is woman enough. It isn’t easy to be honest with people especially when love is involved. What is really interesting about your story here is I too was in the same situation not too long ago. I ended things with my bf of 2 years and met someone else who was so wonderful, however 3 months later I realized my whole heart wasn’t in it and that my heart still lingered towards my ex,. I decided to tell the current love interest that I had to be fair to myself and really figure things out and see if I am wanting to resume to my previous relationship. I also told him it wasn’t fair for me to keep him on the side lines as I string him along, though he was such a great guy and I actually could have seen myself with him for a long time. My whole point here is that yes I do believe she is playing games with you. She either needs to do that hard work or she doesn’t get you. No keeping you at fingertips length while she runs right back to her bf. Remember if your truly meant something to her you would completely 100% know it
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