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writes:Hello Guys, I and my bf have been together for 9 months.. and during those times we had problems but in those time he was the one who always call me or telling me he wanna marry me or texting me.. then after 5 months everything start to change and he got into depression then we barely saw each other then we broke up because of me.. I wanted to break up with him eventhough there is no cheating I hope so.. then after one month without seeing eachother we finally hang out... everything was good and started to kiss and more... but we didint talk too muchthe day after hang out, I asked him: whether he wanna commit this relationship and he told me yeah I know I havent seen you for a while but I love you and dont always bring up break up The problem is why guys tell you he loves you, he misses you and when u asked them whether they wanna commit relationship or not and they answered yeah I love you dont bring up breaking upThen they dont call or text you all day just once or twice...Does the girl really have to be bad girl to make his bf chase or what I should do? cause I really love him.. all I want him to call me or text me again and understand my worth... should I play cool? what should I do guys?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (11 May 2010):
 Some men are not very expressive and do not believe in calling or texting when they have nothing important to say to you.
They don't realize the implications of calling to show their concerns, love or that they are thinking of you . This thought process is quite alien to some men.
I am afraid you will have to accept the way he is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHello Laura1318,
I asked him if he wanna relationship or not and told him I havent seen him for one month and also asked him when he is gonna see me.. he answered me he loves me and he will see me after he comes back the city that he will go for next week... but he still dont call or text to me... once a time I asked him and he told me ''do u want me to get fired?'' cause during the week days he is working athats why he cant text to me.. thats what he told me
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (11 May 2010):
Guys are not mind readers and they cannot feel or see what you are thinking.
You have got to speak to him and tell him directly ,in plain and simple English what you want him to do .He can only understand that kind of language.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHello Guys,
I waited him a lot and I always try to be patient because he went through depression then we had argued about facebook cause he doesnt want me to be his friend and told me I was so jealous and made a problem again thats why we broke up like 10 days and got back together... then from that time almost 1 month I havent seen him
U told me that u should see each other more.. but how? he will have surgery in this month.. and Iam not gonna see him again...
I was always a good girl and somehow I start to think that maybe I shouldnt take care of my bf who barely calls or sees me but I love him though and want his love back.. thats why Iam asking.. cause some guys prefer a bad girl like women liked
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2010): if you want a commitment that badly get a car payment. love and life does not and nor should it work that way. are you sure your age is right? no mature relationship consists of the games your wanting to play. You cant force commitment out of anyone by threatening to leave because guaranteed they will let you go. they may not want to go but will let you.. cause its a huge sign of immaturity.
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (11 May 2010):
 My first suggestion would be that if your total time together has been less than a year, neither of you should really consider a marriage commitment. I really recommend that you get more time together, really get to know each other.
You should not change or become a "bad girl" just to get some kind of commitment. Be yourself...
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