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writes:I asked a question earlier about my penis not getting erect just before intercoarse. Now I would like to know how to overcome (performance) anxiety. Since I keep thinking about it and keep doing it. I'm confident enough though. We have had great sex in the past.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2011): I think I was the one who told you it was probably performance anxiety or stress. If you feel totally comfortable and in teh moment, and you still have issues, it could be stress. It could also be a medical condition, so maybe you should get checked out. I am 42, so if that happened to me, I would pretty much chalk it up to age, but for you, I'm sure it is just stress or a lack of sexual excitement at that moment. Also, if you masturbate a lot, it can "desensitize" you to some degree, which may be adding to the problem. If you look at porn a lot, it can dull your thoughts during "real" sex.
But to answer your question...take the pressure off penetration. Do more foreplay. Get over-the-top aroused so there is no question you are fully erect and ready.
I have the problem you are having on occasion with new partners. It goes away as I get more familiar with them and anticipate how good it feels in their vagina.
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