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How do you kiss a tall guy, if you're a short girl like me?

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Question - (30 November 2007) 50 Answers - (Newest, 15 June 2013)
A female United Kingdom age 22-25, anonymous writes:

Ok odd question I know...but how do you kiss a really tall guy? I'm small (5'3) and he's like 6'2 which is alot taller than me!

I really like him, but he's never really had a gf before so I kinda have to initiate things...which is hard because he's so tall!!

Any tips would be great!!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2013):

Well, I'm 5'0 and my boyfriend's 6'5. It seems like a huge difference, and it kind of is... However, it's not something that would stop us from kissing. You just make it work. It's like your first kiss - You worry about it, and you think 'what if I'm not good? What if I mess up?', and you stress out, but then once it happens, it comes naturally to you. My biggest piece of advice? Don't worry about it! Chances are, you'll end up on your toes and he'll end up leaning down. Or, if you're sitting, and you're short all around like me, and he's still taller, then he'll probably just lean down and kiss you and you simply reach up. If you find your neck to start hurting while you're standing, just pull away for a second. Take a few seconds and just stare at his eyes, and bite your lip, while you discretely rest your neck! If you're sitting on a couch, and your neck starts to hurt, simply lay down either on top of him, or pull him over you! But again, this will all come naturally to you. It's human instincts! We know what we want, and we go for it. Hope I helped!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2012):

I'm in the same position. :J

I'm 4 11" and J is 6 2". We're both 16 and have been dating for nearly a half a year.

This will be our first kiss.

Not just with each other, but with anyone.

I want to be subtle about kissing him, but then again, i reeeeally want to kiss him.

Problem is, i'm shy.

How can i be subtle but still get that kiss we've both been wanting? Just take the moment when it comes? Be willing to miss his lips and catch his chin?

Ar there any other/different ways to kiss my man when i'm fun sized and he's a tree?

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States + , writes (27 December 2012):

So_Very_Confused agony aunteasy peasy... several options.

steps work well he's down one you are up one (steps are usually around a foot high so this would make it perfect)

there is always sitting

or you look up and purse your lips and say "come down here and kiss me you fool"

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A reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2012):

I know how you feel. I'm 13 and 4'2 and my bf is 14 and about 5'10-6'4. Big difference, I know. I've discovered he really likes kissing my head when I'm standing and just kissing me when we're sitting.

If we go roller skating and I'm wearing my skates and he's not and that adds 2-3, maybe 4, more inches, but it's still not enough.

If I'm talking to one of my friends, he'll come up behind me, put his arms around me, kiss the top of my head and then put his head on top of mine.

The other way, if we're standing up, he'll come up behind me, put his hand under my chin, tilt my head up and back, so I'm pressed against him, then leans down and kisses me.

When we're sitting, he'll pull me on his lap sideways, lean me back, and kiss me (it kinda looks like he dipped me while dancing and kissed me, except sitting down).

When we're walking(we live in the country, so no curbs or sidewalks) I'll stand on a rock or tree root, or even climb a tree and hang upside down from the branch, and we'll kiss. He'll pick me up (even spin me around a little) and kiss me; get on his knees so I'm taller and kiss me.

Make it unique. Also, since I travel a lot during school breaks for dance and music, he'll take my phone, iPod (try expliaining that to your dance teacher), and computer and change my backgrounds to a picture of him with his lips puckered, so I can kiss him whenever I want.

Make it really special and unique.

But, boyfriend of the beautiful girl who wrote this question, make sure what you do to kiss her is okay with her. My bf originally pinned me against the wall--didn't really enjoy that, so I told him, and he respects me, stopped and found a new way to kiss me, one that we both like.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2012):

Well, I'm very tall, 6"10.5" and my darling friend is very short 4'8" and I just pick her up and hold her like a little girl and we start kissing. She loves it very much. It makes her very happy indeed.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2012):

I know how you feel, I'm 4' 11" and my boyfriend is like 6 foot tall, but I have to stand on my tippy toes and he has to lean towards me but we make it work!! :) but I absolutely love it when he picks me up 3 amazing !!!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2012):

Well I'm 5ft and my boyfriend is 6"4 and we have absolutely no problems t all . We just wrap our arms around each other and I stand on my tip toes and he tilts his head down a little. Something else you can try if it really bothers you is stand on the tips of his shoes .. I personally think its adorable :)

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2012):

Im in middle school and 5'2 while my boyfriend is 6'4 to kiss him I just stand on my toes or on a step. Sometimes he will pick me up once he gets the hint

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A reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2012):

I'm 5'3/freshman and my boyfriend is 6'1/Junior

honestly im not gona lie, i was SUPER NERVOUS at the beginning when we were barely talking!!!

so many things were going through my head like; WHAT IF WE LOOK AWKWARD TOGETHER? ... WHAT IF PEOPLE LAUGH?... WHAT IF WE LOOK LIKE A BIRD FEEDING THE BABY... WHAT IF I CANT REACH.. WHAT IF THIS WHAT IF THAT... but at the end.. you dont even think about it!!! :) IT JUST MAGICALLY HAPPENS because our natural instinct is usually going on our tippy toes and it works so dont sweat it! (:

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2012):

Well I had the same problem all you have to do is go on your tippy toes :) hope this helped

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A female reader, Alliehart44 United States +, writes (3 April 2012):

my boyfriend is 6 5 and im only 5ft its not too difficult because he just lifts me up and i think its cuute; its not hard its easy(:

hoope i helped!

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A female reader, hernameisrachel United States +, writes (25 February 2012):

Grab the front of his jacket and pull him down to you ;D

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2012):

Hey i know the feeling. I'm a measly 4ft7 the shortest girl in my year. If i don't grow anymore by the time I turn 18 I'm technically a dwarf, fun right.

Anyway Im 4ft 7 and my boyfriend is 6ft 7. He's a basketball player :D

2 foot difference in height. Things can be difficult but try to be imaginative.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2012):

i'm 5 feet six and my date tonight was 6 feet 8! a giant!

there are kerbs and steps everywhere to stand on, if not sitting down or if he picks you up, heaven!!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2012):

Ha my boyfriend is 6'1 and I'm 5'2. Ive always had taller boyfriends and I find it extremely adorable to stand on his feet and look up at him. It gives you a couple inches and it's just super cute In my eyes. :)

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2012):

Uhmm it's a hard place your in ... i don't think is too hard kiss tall guys, i'm 5'1 and been qith a guy who was 6 feet and the kissing part was never hard you just have to stand on the tip of yout toes and you're there...you're taller than me so it should be more easy, in this case you want to take the first step so maybe you should play him and make him carry you and when you're close to his face kiss him and he won't have another choice but to take the kiss and kiss you back of course! I hope I helped you from one short girl to another. Tall guys are super hot!!!!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2012):

I'm 4'11 1/2 and my boyfriend is like 6'2 1/2! I love how tall he is! I've always been attractive to tall guys 3 but he usually bends down to kiss me and I go on my tipy toes ;) hahaha

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2012):

I have the same exact problem, except me and my boyfriends height difference is HUGE. I'm fifteen years old, and I stand at 4 feet and 6 inches. Dramatic, I know lol. While he is fifteen and stands at 5 feet and 8 inches. Big difference. Kissing isn't really an issue for us though, we usually kiss after we hug, and he just bends down and kisses me! Either that or I stand on the bottom step of a set of stairs, whatever works! :)

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2012):

im 4'11 and hes 6'3...big difference i know hahaha the first kiss i made happen cause he realized i wasnt gonna let him go till he leaned down and kissed me:) but after you got that one down,,hell start making it work too...how he liftd me up on his tailgate or a counter, hell lift me up against a wall or sometimes i just grab his shirt and kissss him randomly...hell like that so dont worry girl, itll happen smoothly

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2012):

My girlfriend is about a foot, or more, shorter than me and whenever she wants to she just says 'kiss' which is basically telling me to bend down

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A female reader, baelyssa United States +, writes (16 January 2012):

Well , im fourteen & me & my boyfriend works out really well ; im 5'3 & hes 6'3 . He really doesnt even have to bend down , I dont have to step on any or stand on my tippy toes ; just look up at him .

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A female reader, emminbeto121411 United States +, writes (20 December 2011):

I know how you feel I mean i`m 15 and 5`1 and he is 6`2.5 big difference but just work with it. I don`t find it a problem. In fact I find sorta cute being with a tall guy. have him bend down, or you stand on a step, or sit down. anything can work if you let it)

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A reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2011):

I am 15 and im about 5' 7.5" and my boyfriend is 6' 4". (yea i know he maybe tall for a high school guy!) but when we first kissed it was so awkward because we didn't know how to kiss because im about 9" shorter than him. But we got the hang of it. So when we kiss we normally are laying down, sitting, against a wall (he lifts me up against it), or he picks me up and holds me. He is very strong! ;D

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2011):

me too 6'5

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A female reader, kodielova101 United States +, writes (30 September 2011):

have him sit down and then you should be about the same height you sit too of course and just kiss him good luck dont worry that is what i have to do unless i jump lol gl

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2011):

sit him down and kiss him or maybe lay down hope i helped u

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A male reader, Honir United States +, writes (3 July 2011):

There's nothing wrong and everything right about pulling his collar down and standing on your tiptoes to kiss him.

As a tall guy, I've learned to be bendy when it comes to reaching down for a smooch, but when a girl initiates the kiss, it's always welcome

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2011):

Well for a change, here is the tall males poin of view, I'm 6' 3" and my girlfriend is 5' 3-4". Usually we go to hers and sit down to watch a film, sitting or lying is a perfect position, but when were walking along, I tend to find walking on the road while she's on the sidewalk works just fine :P hope this helps :P

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2011):

well i have the same problem.... im 5ft 3in and he is almost 6ft not much of a height diference but still he has to bend down to even talk to me i say you have him lean against a wall or sit in a chair... or just have both of you sit on a couch and he can lean down and kiss you so he isn't standing at his full height.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2011):

I'm afraid you'll have to wait for him to sit down. That's how I handle my relationship with my tall boyfriend and everything's going great. Steps are tricky cause he may walk away .. but chairs are not only very trustworthy, but they also happen to be wonders of industrial design. I think my favorite chair may be Eero Saarinen's tulip chair, but Pierre Paulin's are also good and somewhat affordable. Well, affordable depending on your current income. I would say that you may need to be making 50 grand a year after taxes. Are you planning on going to college? Do you have a job at the moment? Remember that punctuality is always a plus. Getting a promotion is not that hard if you show enthusiasm and commitment. When i was in college i remember this guy who was like 6'4" and played basketball. I really enjoy sports. I was watching the summer olympics in beijing the other day and I think I saw him playing. Speaking of Beijing, I think it's really amazing how much the economy of China has grown in the past few years. A year, according to the Gregorian calendar, comprises 365 days.

Hope this is helpful!

Bye.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2010):

Sorry for a late reply but I saw this in search. I'm 6' 5" and she is 4' 10" huge difference but it's nice I like it. Just have to lift her up haha

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2010):

I find a short girl kissing a taller guy soo romantic thats why i cant wait to have my first kiss with my boyfriend(not first first kiss)

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A female reader, Jazzminee United Kingdom +, writes (1 December 2010):

my girlfriend is way taller then but after a while you kinda adapt

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2010):

Before I kissed my boyfriend this happened to me. I'm 5'6" and he's 6'4" not too big of a difference, but still a big enough difference to where I can't just stand on my toes haha Now, we do what everyone else has done:

-Have the guy lean down

-steps

-heels

etc. etc. :)

I absolutely love it when he wears a tie and I can take hold of it and drag him down haha (like the movies) ;)

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A reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2010):

I have the same problem. I'm 6'5 and my gf is 5'6 lol and I really need help with ''how im supposed to kiss her.'' Like should I lean down or kiss her while I am sitting or what?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2010):

hmm...sometimes tall guys will grab short girls by the waist, pick them up, and kiss them. or you could get on a high step and he could get on a step or two below. or he can lean his head down. or you could get on your tiptoes and wrap your arms around his neck.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2010):

Hey, I've got the same problem. I'm 5'1, and my boyfriend is 6'4. Pretty big difference, there. But like the rest of the people who answered, we just make use of any curb, step, stool, ect. Don't let the height difference get in your way!! :D

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2010):

I'm a "little person". I'm twenty three and I'm three feet tall... My boyfriend is 6"2. I know, I know. Odd couple. He usualy carries me around like a baby. Hahaha(: bye

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A female reader, theresa2013 United States +, writes (7 April 2010):

Hey derick dont be so nervous. Im 15 and im 5'3" and my bf is 6'1". I was so nervous before the first time we kissed. i have kissed him many times and it isnt that hard after all. you the guy just have to remambrer to try to make yourself shorter by leaning down a little. if she wants to kiss u she will meet u half way. Also, if there are stairs of a curb near by use it. have your gf stand in the higher spot and u stand in the lower part. u can also read about it all over the web but u should find out wat u and your gf find comfortable. if you need any other advice add me on facebook or myspace. my e-mail is: [email address blocked]. i am happy to help anyone who needs advice. just add a message saying "i need your on kissing my gf/bf".

~Theresa Young~

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A reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2010):

i have the same problem. im 13 and my hight is 5'10" and my girlfrind is 4'11". i,ve never kissed a girl before so i dont know how to kiss and i especially have a hard time because shes so much shorter than me and i dont want to bend at the knees or something cuz that seems rude to me so i need some help on this one if anyone can help me. i dont have a problem with short people by the way.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2009):

hey dude I have that SAME question my boyfriend is like 5'9" and im like 5'2" so we are like 7 inches difference and like what I do is stand on my tip-toes then like he kinda bends his knees I mean hes getting a kiss he will work with it! lol hope this helps!!

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A male reader, heartfullalove Ireland + , writes (21 July 2009):

heartfullalove agony auntAh, lovely. At 5'5'', I think I can help.

Sashay over towards him while he's in a sitting position, kiss him, and let it go from there. But if he's standing up, there's a few things you can do:

Lean a little backwards, so he has to 'stoop down to your level' as it were, cradling your back. Think classic Hollwood screen kiss...

or wear really killer heels to elevate you a couple of inches;

or start by kissing his chest (Men love this).

If he's much bigger and stronger than you, he can lift you up and you've got it totally sorted!

Logistically it does pose a problem, but I'm sure you can overcome it with a little ingenuity.

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A female reader, baby_chick1234567 United States +, writes (20 July 2009):

ok i suggest that you lay down and kiss but if you standing up then he can pick you up and set you on the wall cuz im in the same boat you are but im 4' 11" and hes 6'3" lol big diff huh well thats wat we do

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2008):

ow you got such sweet answers!! I am in the same situation, if not worse, I can hardly wrap my arms around his neck, but I use peoples doorsteps and museum stairs to surprisingly kiss him. Luckily he sits behind his computer a lot and so I can kiss him easily. Then he can take you in his arms and you'll have the same height and kiss while your bellies touch. that is important for me, I need to feel him while kissing.Wrap your arms around his neck isn't alway recommendable, if he is really tall, he might have some spine probs, and you do not want to wreck him do you?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2008):

what a coincidence

my girlfriend is 5'3 and i am 6'3. she is able to do it just fine just as the people above posted. Those work for us. But my best suggestion is let him lean on a wall or something and slant down and you will be equal height. after a while it will hurt his toes. it hurts me but i hold it in:)

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A reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2007):

This is verified as being by the original poster of the question

Thank you all for your answers...I'll try them and see what happens! Fingers crossed!

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A male reader, Zim United Kingdom +, writes (1 December 2007):

Zim agony auntMy girlfriend is shorter than me, probably about the same difference as you two. From my angle, I can't quite see but I think she stands on her toes. She puts her arms around my neck and looks into my eyes... The first time that happened I was just completely lost for words. A kiss will follow soon afterwards guaranteed. If you are unsure, start leaning towards him and begin to close your eyes, but not completely. This is the kind of body language that initiates the other person. However, take things the way you want and how you feel they should go.

Other than that, when you're both sitting down lean in for a kiss quickly. There's nothing that melts any unsureness quicker than a slow surprise kiss.

Good luck and I hope this helps!

ZIM

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A male reader, auvi Bangladesh +, writes (1 December 2007):

1. wear heels

2. stand on ur heels

3. wrap your arms around his neck

4. expect him to lower his head cuz he too needs to realize the height difference

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A female reader, Fairy_Lu United Kingdom +, writes (1 December 2007):

Fairy_Lu agony auntCuddle up to him and stand on your tip toes or just come out and ask him to kiss you

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A female reader, bqagirl2692 United States +, writes (1 December 2007):

bqagirl2692 agony auntThis isnt so hard. How tall a person is and how short another maybe has nothing to do with the feelings you have for that person. Kiss him how you'd kiss any other guy. If it bothers you that much that he mayb have to bend down a lot, then try being in positions that the both of you can feel comfortable ( like maybe sitting). Dont let the height get to you because you dont want him to think you care more about how he looks rather than who he is.

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