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How do you 'grind' dance?

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Question - (30 December 2007) 15 Answers - (Newest, 2 April 2010)
A female United States age 18-21, *mile718 writes:

Okay.This is my first time doing this sort of thing so here i go.

A guy i really like is going to ask me to a dance.(at least, thats what he is telling everyone)

The dance is in two weeks. my school does alot of grinding and i just don't know how to what so ever. im new to this school. does anyone have any advice on how to "grind" dance.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2010):

Find one of your good friends that you feel comfortable with and begin to dance with her. Dance with her normally as if no one was watching. A guy will soon notice you, mainly because you're dancing and having fun with your best friend. Most likely a guy won't say anything when he wants to grind, but instead will give you subtle signals.

Act normally, as if you don't even realize that they're coming. Be sure to keep dancing.

They would appreciate if you look at them and smile and signal them over. The best signal is to give a very flirtatious smile and be sexy.Don't Ignore them, acknowledge their presence.

Know what kind of grinding you're doing. When you feel a guy grab you around the hips he can either be facing you or facing your back. If he's facing your back this is normal grinding and more popular. Front grinding is more risque and sexy! Most people don't do front grinding their first time, BUT, if you are doing frontal grinding the sexiest and most comfortable move is to put your hands around his neck. Pull his head close to yours. Always be confident. Confident is sexy!

Move your hips in the shape of a sideways figure-eight. Don't move with your shoulders, grinding is done with your hips. If you're new to grinding, you might let him lead. If not, be assertive and make him follow you. It's much more fun and really sexy.

It's easiest to just put your hands on your thighs, but after a while you might try to mix things up. You can put one or both hands in the air, run your fingers through your hair (don't overdo it), put your hands on your head, hold his hands, or hold the hand of a girlfriend you are dancing across from or near. If you want him to kiss you, put your hand on the back of his neck and turn your head sideways toward him.

If the guy you're trying to dance with isn't the best at grinding, put your hands into his pockets and have your hands follow the motion of your hips. This usually works best when you're hips are moving in circles or sideways figure-eights.

Stay on rhythm.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2010):

Okay, so ur at the dance, and someone jay asked you to get into the grind line, or said: c'mon, let's go grind!, then u r going to just slide into the line and rub ur private (vagina/penis) on the person in front of you. And the person behind you will b doingthe same thing to you... Hope this helps! :)

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2010):

Ok, well I just did this yesterday. I like went hard apparently )my friends said) but he liked it. And move your hips around his dik and have fun gd luk xx

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2010):

ok i am going to my first bat mitzfah (i know, people think its too young) but a lot of people in my grade have already been to one so they already know how to grind and it is my fist time. i am worried but i have been looking it up and watching videos...basically a guy stands behind you, he puts his hands on your waist (sometimes moves them up and down your body, if you dont like where he puts them then move them...this is supposed to be fun) and you move your hips in a slight figure 8 motion...like half figure 8 and half just side to side. he wont ask, he will just start grinding on you, you can then move closer to him. practice in front of a mirror and make sure that you dont look like an idiot before you go...when you get there check out how other people are doing it and do it the way they are...GOOD LUCK...to you and me!

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A female reader, yeah yeah(: United States +, writes (20 March 2010):

when your grinding with a guy he will hold you somewhere around your tummy or hips or something..then basically you just dance! its really easy and you shouldn't worry about it.. it will be fun!

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A male reader, chihoe United States +, writes (26 February 2009):

There are some good instructional videos at www.ClubDanceLessons.Com and an example of grinding and freaking http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I4oNVIYsuc4

-Chi

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A reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2008):

ok babigirl..this is how u do it

first line up his crotch 2 ur butt. then start poppin ur butt. (archin ur back) try to do this really fast.. it feels real good for them. wen u get bored of that, just spin ur hips like u makin a circle, then an s. do this slowly (itll b sexier) then wen u get bored of that bend from the waist and wiggle ur butt. (rock ur hips side to side..but just ur hips so that ur legs are standing still but ur hips are just movin which would wiggle ur butt right around his penis) then just do the whole process over again! once u get better ull b able 2 do more tricks!

oh to see if he really likes u dance wit ur butt slightly off his crotch if he takes ur hips and swing over directly on it then he likes ya. oh and if u happen to look back and hes smilin..keep doin watcha doin!!

good luck hon!!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2008):

what do the guys do?...... how dothey dance and what if he gets an erection

them what

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2008):

Don't grind just because people around you do it and he wants you to do it. Do it only if you want to. Trying to appease others is the worse way to live your life.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2008):

The easiest way to grind is butt to crotch. Just press your butt against where you think his penis is and move your body to the rhythm of the music. Think of it as massaging his crotch with your butt. Make sure you move with the music. If you have trouble finding the beat, then try just moving your body with his. If you are going to do this, then make sure you press up pretty hard against him, so that yor movements still feel good for him. If you're good at moving to the beat and you really like the guy, then try dancing with just one of your buttcheeks pressed very firmly on his crotch. He will probably use his hands to guide your body to exactly where he wants it when he realizes what you're doing. Let him. Guys get really confused if you start doing really sexual dancing, but won't let them touch you with their hands.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2008):

I was scared to do it too at first but you get the hang of it. It's easy. Like everyone before me pretty much, just like stand in front of him and just move your hips in a figure 8 position. Or, just do what I did the first time I did it, and follow what he's doing and let your bodies flow together. If you get advanced you can do whatever, move up and down on him and shake your butt violently in his area. It's just a crazy dance about fun and that's what us teens do. =]

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A female reader, brooke5426 United Kingdom +, writes (31 December 2007):

brooke5426 agony auntlike everyone said, you stand with your back to him, he'll probably have his hands on your hips (cos it'd look a bit weird if he was just standing there) and you press your bum into him and kind of move your hips slowly side to side in a figure of 8 kind of movement.

not gonna lie though, theres something eerie and weird about the thought of a load of 13-15 year olds all doing this at a school dance. your teachers will be slightly horrified.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2007):

ooo grind dancin, yh that can be very popular...

guys usualy like to do this to get close to a girl;

grind dancing may involve him holding your waist or touching you in some way(just round the stomach or bum!) so be ready for that.

but really it's pretty easy to do..

basically it's just like ripeling your body, like you were writing an S with you torso?..the sort of action your torso area does ina worm? sorry its hard to explain

but to warn you, dancing like this can get a little out of hand, just make sure you dont let him get carried away or to touch you more then you want!

but just have fun, im sure u'l have a great time.

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A female reader, x-Happy-Feet-x United Kingdom +, writes (31 December 2007):

x-Happy-Feet-x agony auntoh i was in that position just try on a wall move your hips and move your bumm and that what i did my boy loved it i kind of went down and came up agen he liked that alot as you can probably think but go on youtube and watch belly dancing.. hip rolling and grinding trust me it will help i learnt how to do it by that xx hope this helps

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A female reader, loops United Kingdom +, writes (30 December 2007):

I may be completely off course here but by grinding im presuming you mean hip grinding, where you get really close to someone and you pretty much move like you are almost having sex. However. due to the power of google, it is what i thought but backwards, you grind your bum into a blokes groin when dancing, so are really close, you face your back to him and basically wiggle your bum into him- but obviously in a more sexy way than ive just put it.

Best way to do something is to learn by example so watch what people around you are doing- or stick your question into google, it brings up videos of couples grind dancing in clubs, which shows you exactly what I was badly trying to explain

Good luck

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