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How do you ask someone to leave you alone, when they have helped you out so much?

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Question - (14 July 2010) 1 Answers - (Newest, 14 July 2010)
A female United Kingdom age 51-59, anonymous writes:

I split up with my partner of four and a half years last year because she wouldn't move in with me. We stayed friends and then I had a major operation, struggled to walk afterwards and it's been a long road to recovery. Ex has been great, helping me out a lot, keeping me company and being a taxi service to my son. But now I'm getting more back to normal and she's still around. My house is full of her things like when we were in a relationship and I don't know how to ask her to clear off. She's been great so I don't want to offend her but I still love her and having her around so much is messing with my head. How do you ask somebody to leave you alone when they have helped you so much? I've tried dropping hints but I'm getting no where.

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A female reader, LLindy87 United States +, writes (14 July 2010):

LLindy87 agony auntWhy can't you still be with her if you love her? Why is her not moving in a deal breaker for you? Perhaps she wasn't ready. Sounds like she still cares about you a lot.If you just want to be friends now, in the kindest way possible explain that you're feeling better, thank her immensely for all her help and make sure you keep being friends with her. Don't blow her off because she may feel like you used her while you weren't better and I'm sure that wasn't your intentions.

Just make sure to thank her and let her know how much you appreciated the help. Simply say that you have to get back to your life how it was before and you'd still love to hang out with her every now and then and if she's ever in a pickle that you'd have your back.

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