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How do our sex personalities change as we get older?

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Question - (19 March 2011) 2 Answers - (Newest, 19 March 2011)
A female United States age 51-59, anonymous writes:

I'm in my early 40's (female) and my husband is in his early 60's. We've been together over 11 years...

My question/concern is how each of our "sex" personalities change as we as age?

What I think may be him no longer attracted to me is just a figment of my imagination and it's b/c of his age and aging...???

I also feel that we are in a "rut" and I need help to get out of it and want to adjust it to fit w/how we are now as we get older.

I'm afraid of losing him...

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2011):

Humans do lose the sex!sex!sex! mentalities and physical urges of their urge as they age; perhaps biologically speaking we are not supposed to be old parents. Women go through menopause which changes things; plenty of men lose the ability to maintain an erection; health problems begin to arise, etc. etc. This isn't to say the majority are so negatively socially affected by aging; people continue have and enjoy their sex lives well into old age. To reference obvious examples, things like Viagra and studies into natural health for longevity exist and are gigantically popular because oceans of men and women still want to have sex past their 'expiration' dates.

Couples who 'mate' with each other, even not monogamously, usually lose spark over time and need shaking things up to regain it. Trying new things in the bedroom, being more adventurous, going beyond natural comfort zones, conversing about each other's individual desires/needs, Sex Advice in general can help here. Getting healthier together and working on your diets and bodies can reshape youthful feelings and physiques lost (sexual interest is a great part visual... so, women and men: Look Sexy, remain attractive to your partner's tastes. Your efforts to work towards that will likely energize you and pep up your confidence, which could only Help the issue and your life).

Sex is gigantic in any relationship where *any* side still wants it. It takes only one- if it is only him, it is important; if it is both of you, it is important. If by this rule, it is important, then Address It and do what you can to bring it back, or your relationship will suffer. Be sure to not neglect its other aspects, beyond the sexual, because everything adds up and affects each other and you want to get along.

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A male reader, PeterNorth Australia +, writes (19 March 2011):

I know i'm only 18, so you probably think my advice is bogus, but here goes. If you think your in a rut try some new things like sex outdoors, nude beachs, video fun, even friends or extra people joining you. We all change sexually as we age and it changes our sexually tastes. Spice things up and get outta the rut asap.

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