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writes: I'm 20, and at first, i was just depressed about still being a virgin, (almost lost it a few months ago, done everything but that final step) i waited through high school, for a few reasons- at first marriage was a possibility, but realistically babies and rumors and nothing lasted that long- and i was okay with it. some people regret losing it t, while i am just the opposite. i never planned on losing it at 20. i now feel a world of guilt also because looking back, all of my friends had serious relationships (most are still together) all lost their virginity by 17. i don't regret waiting for the right person, but i do regret waiting so long and so late, and not really looking when i was younger. i really wish i could have found someone like they did and lost this sooner. i talked to a lot of girls, and sort of did stuff, but nothing ever lasted that long. everything always fell apart. i feel like waiting for the right girl, i might wait forever, and i feel like years from now, i will feel stupid waiting so long, and when everyone thinks back on high school and when they lost theirs, i wont have anything to think about...how do i get over all of this regret?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2007): i think holding on to your virginity is amazing. im in regret of losing mine so young (14). i think maybe when your older you may not regret it so much, (maybe i have no idea). all i know it that virginity no matter what people say when they're young, is something worth having you only have it once. and your older now and can choose to use it wisly mine was wasted on someone i didn;t like i was just fitting in.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2007): Acutally I can relate to you as well- although with a different perspective. I am still a virgin adn I am 20- and I feel it would probably be better to save it for the right person- almost all of the girls( and guys) Ive talked to said they hurried into it too fast- and they have lots of regrets- a shitty relationship only built on lust... not understanding their feelings.. birthcontrol issues.. and so forth etc.. So really- I am glad that I am still here.. just waiting for the right person.. I understand the other parts though- not having the experience- but really thats a very very very miniscule issue to other things- like being successsful in school and having solid relationships. The bigger and better things in life wont judge you weather youve lost your virginity or not.. really thats your secret- and no one needs to know or really care but you... by pressuring yourself( like everone else before you) you might rush into it- and then you woudl regret that more... if you are just plain horny.. then... satisfy your self for the time being.. but really its up to you.. there has to be a reason somewhere in the back of your mind for not going for the plunge.. and that is good... anyone who would judge you on not doing it has to be wrong in the first place for any judgement... dont worry about it... go on simply... time will come if you dont push it..Hope this helps!
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reader, AskEve  + ♥, writes (2 February 2007):
 Hey everyone's different, no one even needs to know you're still a virgin. So what, your friends have all lost their virginity so you want to lose yours too? If they all decided that drugs were cool would you want to be a user too? You sound like a really decent guy. The more you stress out about this the more uptight you'll become.
There's nothing to be embarrassed about being a virgin at 20. Just say to yourself you're fussy and when the right person comes along you'll know.
Eve
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2007): I'm a virgin at 22 so I appreciate exactly how you feel. The more I think about it the more I think sex isn't a big deal and therefore we might as well just get it over with. Unfortunately guys just don't fancy me. It sounds like you have some girls after you though. I'd say waiting for ms perfect is a silly idea. Nobody is perfect.
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