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writes: attention guys! I need your help.what does it mean when a guy sends some major mixed signals?I really liked this guy but he always refused to answer the question "do you want to be more than just friends?" yet told me once that he thinks about me every night before he goes to sleep and every morning when he wakes up, but this was after he didn't call me for a few months. (talk about mixed signals!)although I told him off and stopped it, I still have feelings for him after all this time. did he really like me but was just scared of his feelings? or did he not like me the way i liked him?guys, tell me what you think please. Reply to this Question
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reader, shapoopsy  +, writes (3 September 2010):
 i see this is an old question, but the answer is simple to one who has already learned: he's answering your question alright. he's telling you he doesn't want anything and he's using you for sex. he thinks of you every night before bed and in the morning when he wakes up..hello! masturbation! many males like to play little word games like this. sorry, this one's a creep. ~shapoopsy
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reader, schlottjl +, writes (25 April 2006):
 Listen to the wisdom and I have some good/bad news as well. I have been surfing the web and caught an unfortunate new movement. Now I notice it everywhere.
It is a treat them poorly and they will want to have sex with you on your terms. . . And then split for at least a week but longer if you can get more ladies lined up.
So he is attracted to you. You are desirable and he knows it. But unfortunately, if he has thought of you so much, he is lazy and unavailable emotionally.
He may never have heard of the new men's movement that is an angry answer to the angry womans movement. But it would help me to suspect this and if he were to ever have a chance with me again, he would have to earn it big time.
Assume you are a booty call and no matter how your heart might break, make sure you have your values and needs central in your mind. Do not let him see you sweat. If he is playing games and cares at all for you, sending the signal that you will not tolerate the games and insist on mature people only in your life, he just might snapt to and grow up. If not, no matter what your mind imagines might have been, it would have been nothing but lonliness and hell. Keep your chin up and if you practice thought stopping ( refuse to wish about him) and you keep your actions healthy and involved with the good life offers, you will attract strong men that will be there for you and not the booty - which I am sure is good so remember it is a gift and a reward for those who are deserving and you are in charge of who is worth it in your world.
Good luck
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reader, Angelicc  +, writes (25 April 2006):
 i think the mixed signals thats this guy is showing you, just show how mixed his feelings are that he maybe attracted you, may even have feelings for you but isnt ready to commit to a relationship with you.
or this guy is a player and just running his game on you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2006): I have to comment on this, even though you specifically asked for male opinions. Let me just say..if a guy really likes you, he is definitely NOT scared of his feelings, hun. And he's be moving mountains to be with you. I don't understand why you still have feelings for this fellow when all he's giving you is small shreds of his attention. Getting your feelings in check, think with your brain, dear and uphold yourself to a higher standard and never put up with this. As far as I'm concerned 'mixed signals' is just a smokescreen for major 'mindgames'. Mindgames are hurtful, immature, disrespectful and they only serve to plant seeds of self-doubt in a person. If he can't come clean and just tell you he's not that into you...kick him to the curb.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2006): If someone is sending you mixed signals like that, it usually means that they're having mixed feelings. He was probably torn between wanting to stay friends and wanting to date. In such a case, sometimes you can get over that initial hurdle by being the aggressive party and just asking him out, but more often the boy is just too nervous to go very far. Try being less coy next time.
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reader, prttymtlkitty +, writes (24 April 2006):
 Ok, I'm not a guy, but personally if I'm not his 'saturday night' then I consider myself a 'filler' to him. Is that where you want to be regardless of your feelings for him? You know he's into you cause he keeps coming back, but where does he go and why? Sometimes its better not to ask him straight up, but pay attention to when he calls you and why. There you will find where you stand.I had this happen to me, but it was with someone who was a newly breaking rock star constantly on tour. Bottom line is now he's with someone steady and its not me. So, with a guy, if your in the 'friend zone' there is usually a reason and he will never tell you why. Am I right guys? You don't get diamonds from manure.
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