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writes:Hi I really need help. I have been talking to a girl I met online and we are good friends. We have been talking for about 3 months and I lied about who I am. I told her a fake name and religion and now I feel so guilty I want to tell her the truth but I do not want her to be mad. How do I tell her? Thanks
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reader, myowlandme  +, writes (12 February 2012):
Well, just tell the truth and it will be fine. Start look for the moment, anyway I do not think that se would be mad about it. The fake name is not so problematic, if she is very interested in the religion, it may be a problem.
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reader, unwrittenmelody  +, writes (8 February 2012):
I think you should be honest. If you trust this girl completely then I think you should tell her the truth. Give her your reasons for hiding it too. I'm sure, if she is a good friend of yours, that she will understand.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2012): I guess you can tell her and see if she is ok with it. Someone did this with me once in email and he lost all credibility with me after that, but he didn't have very much to begin with. I told him what an ass he was and a coward and told him not to contact me anymore- he got nasty. Why would you do that?
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reader, Deathbunny  +, writes (8 February 2012):
Religion IS a key, critical, important piece of identity for many people. It tells someone how they should treat that other person and what they should/can expect from them.Essentially, if religion is important to this person, you've basically violated her trust in a very personal way. If it's not as important and the "value" of your friendship is worth more, it's possible to work through it.Whether or not she's mad and whether or not she stays your friend is up to her (and how important you are to her now).I would probably tell her you weren't honest about your religion and name and explain why you chose to present yourself the way you did. If you are a valued friend and it's an understandable reason, she might over look it.Additionally, I would do it sooner than later and include the fact you are telling her because she is a valued friend to you. Ask forgiveness for lying/violating her trust.After that, it's up to her.Good luck.
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