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writes:How do I tell a shy guy that I really like him? I've never felt this way about anyone before...and I don't want to lose him. When I'm with him I feel like I'm on top of the world, I get butterflies when he touches my arm. I've fallen for him big time. He has never had a proper girlfriend before and I've been waiting since the beginning of the year for the right guy to come along and he has...Please how do I tell him? I've never ever felt like this before...he's in my everythought, I've even dreamt about him...I've fallen big time haven't I?
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reader, daletom  +, writes (22 January 2008):
"Life goes on" isn't the ONLY option open to you. Friends CAN become more than friends.
ShyGuy may need a little time to figure things out. If he has indeed never had a girlfriend he probably doesn't know how the boyfriend/girlfriend thing is supposed to work and is hesitant to give it a try. If he was teased or ridiculed in the past he may be reluctant to admit any interest or attraction, out of fear that you're setting him up for a fall.
If you're interested in him, maintain contact, continue to be friends, and associate with him in social settings like work, school, church, clubs, etc. Don't aggressively pursue him, and don't say anything like "When you change your mind, I'll be here.". Give him the chance to see that you are a sincere, attractive and desirable person. If he comes to this conclusion - you WILL be there.
Give it a month or two and evaluate whether there has been any movement.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, he only likes me as a friend. How do I know, he told a mutual friend who then told me....
Oh well...life goes on I guess....
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reader, birdynumnums  + ♥, writes (4 December 2007):
 I think that's a great idea. Going out in a group situation will take the pressure off of him if he is shy. He'll be less nervous and you'll be able to judge where to go from there. Absolutely. Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for all of this, I really apreciate it! I'll ask him to do something over christmas. I was thinking of a fun fair thingy within a group then maybe the two of us go out to dinner afterwards...? I'm not sure yet...but I don't want to lose him, or it to go wrong.
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reader, birdynumnums + ♥, writes (4 December 2007):
This is the sweetest question ever! I don't think I can improve on kenny and bradwongs anwers! I just want you to write back and let us know how it all turns out! Ahh, young love! Best of luck Sweetie! We are all rooting for you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2007): i agree with kenny but personally i would ask one of his freinds if he likes you back
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (3 December 2007):
 Its a lovely feeling isen't it, that great feeling of liking someone so much that you get butterflies in your tummy. I think in this day and age it does not look to out of place for a girl to ask a guy out, as it did years ago. When you next see him next ask him if he fancies doing something one night, maybe over the weekend, you could go out for a meal, or to the cinema or something. Go out on a few dates first before you tell him how you feel about him.
I hope it all works out for you, and good luck x
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