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writes:My boyfriend of 6 months is 14 years older than me (me, 19 years of age) we are happy together and take our relationship seriously. My parents are still not aware of this relationship as I am worried to tell them just because of his age. However that not the only problem.My auntie is a couple years younger than my partner and they were together when they were both younger good friends (they have not been in contact for 6/7 years maybe longer) Even worse my partner is aware of who my auntie girlfriend is and has told me that when they were in their early Tweenties that they had slept together at the time my auntie and her girlfriend did not know each other, there was no link. My worry is how do I tell my parents? Do you think the age gap is disgusting? How do I tell my auntie? And in general how do you think it will go down? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2016): Sometimes it works, sometimes not. My mum was 17 when she met my dad, and he was 33. They were together for 28 years in total. They dated for three years, and were married for 25 years. One of my older half brothers is married to a woman they is 17 years younger than him, and I am.going out with someone 18 years older than me.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (25 June 2016):
 I don't think a 33 year old has good intentions if they are dating a 19 year old. You have no adult life experiences compared to him. You may be a legal adult, but it's not wise to be with someone not in your life stage or a family member's ex.
Also, it's immature to keep secrets from your parents like this; they won't be able to trust you and it's dangerous in case he turns out to be a bad guy (it could happen, don't think it couldn't).
OP, you are a child compared to this guy. Enjoy your youth with people your own age - you and this guy are at two different stages of life and you may appreciate the attention you're getting from an older guy, but it's not wise to stay with him.
After the age of 25, age gaps don't matter so much, but a mature 33 year old would t see a 19 year old as a relationship equal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2016): I don't think your parents are going to be too happy about the 14 year gap, and very curious about how you both met in the first place. They will not be happy about you keeping secrets from them; because the reward for honesty is trust.
Your auntie might view it a little peculiar, but it may also be of concern depending on why they broke-up. She may have reservations about her ex dating her much younger niece.
Typical of young people, they stir up controversy when it comes to who they decide to date. The dust settles once everyone gets used to the idea. They just have to prepare to be supportive; because you will not accept anyone's opposing opinion. Thus you have to bump your head and skin your knees to learn from your own mistakes.
I wish you the best, and he better be good to you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2016): So your bf is 33 and your 19 .. For me as a parent to two girls not your age of course .. I would be mortified really .. I would say 26 at a push but no more .. at your age your developing and still adjusting to being a young women .. he's 33 been there done that and got the tshirt so for me .. no it wouldn't go down well but i would do my best to support not alinate my daughter so id be having a meet said bf and getting some ground covered plus at taht age my daughters would not be having nookie unless a wedding or engagement was on the cards .. sex is so cheap nowadays holds no worth to guys .. and my girls though young realise having sex doesnt mean the guy stays with you and if yoy fall pregnant he can merryily continue his life .. and no tnis didnt happen to me haha been with my childhood sweetheart since 15teen ..but here hoping your parents react the same after the shock .. All you can do is bite the bullet sweetie get it over and done with and just say .. And then come back and let us know .. my theory is expect the worse and hope for th best outcome .. don't expect them to be over the moon to begin with . And let time tell .. Take care chin up and we are here ..
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