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How do I tell my husband's girlfriend's husband?

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Question - (11 April 2011) 9 Answers - (Newest, 13 April 2011)
A female Canada age 41-50, anonymous writes:

How do I go about informing my husband's girlfriend's husband that she is having an affair?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2011):

Collect evidence to prove the affair and then make sure he gets it.

If you dont have evidence, then are going on hear-say. The other husband needs to know what his wife is doing.

Then file for divorce and move on with your life.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2011):

Simple phone call will do.

Do it.

He deserves to know.

A shitstorm may follow, but honestly, you don't cause the shitstorm, only trigger it, but he deserves to know.

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A female reader, Nonamus United States +, writes (12 April 2011):

Someone said that it's your business that the woman is putting hands on a married man. That's not your business. Your husband is your business. The woman and her husband may have an understanding, but even if not, that isn't your concern. Deal with your husband; no one else.

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A female reader, tennisstar88 United States +, writes (11 April 2011):

tennisstar88 agony auntI'm sorry maybe I just can't read, your husband's girlfriend??

Or husband's friend who is a girl, inform her husband that she is cheating??

The answer is you don't. It's not your marriage, and it isn't your place to tell him. Chances are he won't believe, or he already is aware, and you will be dragged into someone else's marital problems. If anything shouldn't your husband be telling him since it's his friend..why would you want to get involved in some unnecessary drama?

Leave it alone. He will eventually catch her, cheaters get too comfortable in their routine and start to get sloppy.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2011):

Tell your husband that you're going to blow the whistle, and that she and your husband had better come clean about their affair before he hears it from you.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2011):

I know revenge must seem sweet right now.. but what do you have to gain? self-satisfaction? I would stay out of it. It is going to ruin their marriage as I am sure it has ruined yours.. why get involved in the drama.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2011):

I would *without a doubt* stay out of the relationship between the 'other' woman and her husband. It really isn't your business how damaged their relationship is.

What *is* your business is her putting her hands on a married man. That is adultery and it's wrong. You might give her a piece of your mind, but it won't get you far, other than creating drama.

Now, how you handle him? Try a marriage counselor first, by all means, but it certainly wouldn't hurt to talk to a lawyer *you trust*.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2011):

I guess that it depends on a lot of different circumstances. Is he a family friend? Have yet met him personally? It's tough hearing that sort of news from a stranger. I would probably stay out of it and take up my end of the anger on my own husband and the other woman.

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A male reader, thomas1214 Canada +, writes (11 April 2011):

let it be or talk to your husband about it. if you dont get involved alot of drama is saved. but also makes you feel bad at the same time to.

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