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writes:I,23 female,have moved far away for 6 months from a man, 31, who I fell in love with. We spent only 3 days together but I got this feeling he loved me by the way he acted and looked T me. Firstly, can I trust this feeling? Could I be deluded because i felt that way? Now that I live very far away we do not talk at all, although he comments by complimenting me on my fb profile pic so I know he still is interested. How do I tell if he isn't talking to me because he is being responsible and realistic or because it was a short romance in his eyes? Can you really trust your gut when it comes to love?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2015): I'm sorry but you don't love him after spending 3 days together.
You don't know him at all! You are attracted to him definitely, but please distinguish the two in your head because mistaking attracting for love will lead you to some very poor decisions.
Now that you are far, you don't talk at all so he's basically a stranger. Commenting on your facebook pictures means absolutely nothing. If he really wanted something to come from this, he would have made an effort of asking for your number or dialling it, or sending you actual letters or skype or something. He would have come to visit you or looked into it at least.
My advice is to enjoy the attention but don't be mistaken what you two is barely a friendship let alone a love story.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (27 January 2015):
 People can be romantic and realistic at the same time. Romantic during a condensed, limited time phrase and realistic when faced with distance. You two never talked about what would come out of this so I guess the two variables of what he's thinking shouldn't really matter. Maybe you feel better if he truly felt for you, versus having a fling then ignored you?
I think in certain situations you can trust your gut when it comes to love, but certainly not on what you did those 3 days. Maybe only in romantic comedies. Short term romances are intense because through the interaction you feel the world getting closer and connected, compared to the isolation you feel in your daily lives with other people living close to you. There is no doubt the feeling you have is real, but when it comes to long term, marriage, you need much more than just a feeling. There is the universal love that is recognized when everyone cries when mom dies, the fuzzy feeling that a small animal being born, then there is the tried and true commitment to that one person even when passion fades.
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