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How do I tell him these harrassing phone calls are from a bully and are not me?

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Question - (19 January 2007) 2 Answers - (Newest, 19 January 2007)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

i have recently meet this guy. we started going out and everything was fine. previously my last relationship ended due to persistant bullying from an unknown phone number. to prevent this happening again i changed my number. this was a real turning point in my life.

after only 2 weeks of going out with this new guy he started recieving messages, appearing from my phone number, yet they were not from my phone. the bully had started again, using internet programmes to send messages appearing from my number yet not on my bill. they claimed i had been attacked, in accidents and in real trouble. since he recieved these messages he has not contacted me and will not answer my calls. the thing is, is this guy was different, i really liked him and he said that he loved me. i don't know how i can get to tell him that i was not involved in the sending of these messages and that it was done by this bully.

i wish i had told him that i had been previously bullied but i thought that this was in the past and i wanted to move forward. i want to get him to listen to me, tell him the truth, and express how i feel about the whole situation. it has been a week now. do you have any suggestions as to how i can get him to listen?

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A male reader, moomoomoo United States +, writes (19 January 2007):

moomoomoo agony aunt" since he recieved these messages he has not contacted me and will not answer my calls."

so how do you know he got those messages? if he told you, then you should just tell him that they were not from you and that someone is doing mischief... if he then does not talk to you, i would suggest talking it out telling him this has happened before and maybe he'll know some circumstances, if still no go or if you don't feel like doing any of the above, then well.. good luck.. you decide what to do then

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A female reader, cd206 United Kingdom +, writes (19 January 2007):

cd206 agony auntI'm thinking that anyone hacking into your phone via the internet and doing these terrible things is acting illegally. Report it to the police and ask them to investigate it. If the police decide to pursue the complaint they will probably have to speak to your boyfriend. Right now he thinks you're sending those messages and attention seeking. Try writing him a letter explaining everything that went on in your past. Hopefully he'll be sympathetic and willing to try again.

CD

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