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female
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30-35,
*riaz
writes:There's a guy at the gym i have my eye on. I had seen him around at the gym many times, but never talked. However, we both ended up doing the Spartan Race back in January. We both recognized each other, and started talking. After that, we started talking at the gym. I always thought he was cute, but never had the guts to talk to him before. A friend of mine caught him checking me out once or twice (or so he says), which is very flattering if it's true. I dont see him very often anymore since our work schedules are pretty opposite (he can only workout in the mornings on weekdays, and I can only workout at night on weekdays). The only time I usually see him is Saturday mornings. He nods at me when he sees me and sometimes comes up to talk to me and our mutual friends at the gym. I want to talk to him more but I don't want to interrupt his workout, and I'm shy with men. He usually keeps to himself, and I dont want to bother him. I know he's just being friendly, but it would be nice to see him more and talk to him more. How do I go about doing that?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (22 May 2017):
 Are you sure that he is single? I wouldn't go asking him out until you are really sure. Start slowly. General chit chat, smile at him, say hello, ask him about his week. The next Saturday session you both have generally say to him you are starving and would he like to grab a bit off lunch with you? You should know your answer then. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2017): Add him on social media. Facebook, Twitter, Instagram... Whatever. Like and comment on posts of his that you genuinely like. Then start messaging him casually on one of these platforms... Once you're well acquainted with him, he will probably ask for your number and ask you for a date if he was indeed checking you out like your friend says.
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (22 May 2017):
 Ask him if he wants to share a juice in the cafe after the session. He will either be too busy or, if he cannot spare the time then, arrange another time.
You should probably find out if he's married or otherwise spoken for first.
Men can be friendly to women without necessarily wanting to go out with them. But you realise that already don't you.
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