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writes:How do I stop living in fear of my boyfriend emotionally or physically cheating on me and just be with him happily.He has never done anything to betray my trust, and every time I have had an issue, he explains it. But it's a huge strain and I have to change. I almost lost him once and he's such an amazing guy. I just need to learn to trust him like he trusts me. How? It's so hard with all these storites about other people having feelings for others or actually physically cheating, and even though my boyfriend has proven his trustworthiness over and over again, it's still hard for me. I'm definitely working on it, and I know the issues stem from my past relationship. I let go of the little things now and give his word the benefit of the doubt. He can see the difference I'm trying to make and appreciates it. How do I get it to 100% or close so I can just have the wonderful relationship we should have? Reply to this Question
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reader, Daniel the love doctor +, writes (14 August 2011):
 If he has never done anything to betray your trust, then there is nothing that you should be worried about. Whatever happened in your past..is just that..your past. You have to learn to move on and work on loving and trusting the guy that you're currently with. And don't worry about the stories that you hear of people cheating (or having feelings foe someone else). Though this happens in life, not everyone is going to cheat. Are you the type to? I figure you're not. So why not be open to the possibility that there are many more people in the world who think and feel the same way as you..and chances are so does your boyfriend. And he seems like a good guy- and it's clear that you two have a great relationship. So just work on the issues within yourself- and maybe talk to a friend, therapist, or family member for guidance and positive support. If you do, your relationship will feel/be a lot more loving and satisfying.
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reader, mthm616 +, writes (14 August 2011):
No one can really convince you to trust him other than yourself. If he hasn't given you any reason not to trust him, then you need to believe that he isn't lying. Give him a real chance and let him prove himself to you. If you keep pushing him away because you don't trust him, it will cause a problem in your relationship that can't be fixed.Good luck!
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