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36-40,
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writes:I'm a guy. I think i'm over possessive over my girlfriend. Any guy who just posts on her Facebook wall will make me feel uneasy. Then I will start to be doubtful. I keep telling myself they are just friends (which I THINK it is true)Recently she has been hanging out a lot with her church friends, a group of about 7 of them. 4 are guys. I started feeling worried...By the way, my girlfriend tells me if she faces any problem, if she does not want to tell me then don't force her to say it. She says that certain problems ppl really have to deal with it themselves. I really care about her. I find it hard to accept. It's like she does not want me to know her problems. I want to help her so badly if she face a problem. What does it mean? What should i do? I will feel really down...then I will ask myself, does she not trust me anymore?She often reply my text really late, sometimes it gets half a day...when I send her a text, I will be waiting for her reply. So she often keeps me waiting and sometimes I feel pissed. Sometimes she got reason, some other time she just does not mention why she reply late. I've never really confronted her on this problem before. I always check on my phone for her message...Bcuz I really love her. But this does not reciprocate. Sometimes I feel like she does not care...Im not on her mind anymore. Im nothing.I think I'm too paranoid. But I really, really love her. How to overcome these problems?I need some advice badly!!
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (11 January 2011):
 Well, at least you see your issue! The worst case is when the person is living in denial.
She seems like a private person who is kind of crappy at texting. I'm the same way - I have mostly male friends, tend to handle most issues independently and I am HORRIBLE at returning texts and phone calls.
I think you should talk to her and get a little reassurance. You need to figure out how you can build some trust, because when it comes down to it - you're just going to have to grit your teeth and trust her. That is the bottom line. There will always be other guys in the universe. Dedicate extra time in your current relationship to getting a solid base friendship and establish some really great memories together. She is dating YOU because she wants to be with YOU!
This will be a good life lesson. Good luck, sweet!
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