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How do I stop being insecure about my penis size?

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Question - (21 May 2013) 3 Answers - (Newest, 22 May 2013)
A male Japan age 30-35, anonymous writes:

So im an Asian guy will be having sex with a white guy. he's amazing and that's also what he thinks about me. But as any Asian, size issues make me feel insecure. Also, this gonna be his first time being with a guy and i wanna to make it as good as i can. any advice would be much appreciated!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2013):

Hey WiseOwlE. im the owner's question. thanks so much for spending ur time. my actual question was: "how to overcome size issues". i didn't write down the word "penis". i've been with people from different races and i feel alright about my body but i think this happens to anyone when it comes to the one they like a lot. i've seen him naked, he's gorgeous in side out when maybe im not. he's "straight", he likes making jokes, sweet and caring, he held my hand when i was talking abt my insecurities. i'm really lucky when he picked me to be his first one so the actual reason for the question was for him, is what i can do in my power to make his first night great. Thanks u and hope u can help me one more time!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2013):

You can't grow a larger penis, so you have to be sure he likes you for more than what is in your pants.

You have to remember; you both are in an experimental stage sexually. He has little to compare you too. You have to appreciate everything nature has given you. Don't be defeated before you even get to know what the guy likes. You are trying to predict what he's thinking and what he wants. Let him show you. Just be yourself and fight any urge to be shy about your endowment. He may have a small one too.

If your penis size devalues everything else you have to offer, you are going to be a very lonely guy. Don't blame your penis, blame your attitude and prejudice.

You don't tell anyone what's going on in your shorts. It's a secret until you decide you want to have sex. It's not the topic of conversation when you walk up to a stranger.

"Hello, I'm Asian, I have a small penis. Do you still like me?" Even if you don't say the actual words, your body language and lack of confidence will send the same message.

That is not attractive.

For goodness sake, don't approach guys openly confirming that ridiculous stereotype. Don't forget, it's not all about length and thickness. The shape, color, and appearance when fully erect is the turn-on.

Well, for now he wants you. If he is disappointed about your penis, then he is superficial and it was all about sex. It wasn't at all about you. If you go around worrying about your size, you are going to kill every opportunity you have to meet nice guys who don't really care. Don't make it a problem, until it actually becomes a problem.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2013):

It's a penis size dont matter when it comes to sex

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