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How do I stop a leaky penis..it's a bit embarrassing! Any tips?

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Question - (14 September 2006) 14 Answers - (Newest, 8 March 2010)
A male , anonymous writes:

Hi,

I have 2 questions both about my sex organ, yes, the male penis :O

Im 19 and so is my girlfriend, im a virgin, though shes not. The first problem is i get a little wet down below when we have a little fun, im not prematurley ejaculatig, just seem to be 'leaking' a bit when i get excited. How can i stop this as it makes me uncomfortable and a bit embarrased with a damp patch on my boxers!

Secondly, although i can become errect with her when i am excited, it can dissapear when she goes near it, i think it might just be nerves maybe, although i feel very comfortable with her. Im not exactly sure why its doing it.

Please help me thanks ;)

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A male reader, uncutdan United States +, writes (8 March 2010):

uncutdan agony auntHey Buddy, To answer the first. Some guys "leak" pre ejaculatory fluid alot. I do too. I'm uncut and it keeps everything naturally lubed, but it also does something else. In the fluid is a naturally occuring numbing agent to keep you from premature ejaculation. Secondly it looks like you have some anxiety about what she thinks of the leaking and is causing your limpness problem. The leaking is normal and should happen it will keep both of you lubed up if you are not using a condom, and keep you lubed up if you are. Stop worrying about the fluid, tell her its gonna be sloppy and wet and go at it, be kinky with it. Might want to lay down some plastic!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2008):

I am impressed at the female responses here and glad to see I am not the only one with this obstacle. I have had this condition all my life to the point that it does cause physical limpness that cannot be overcome. This was only a problem for me during first and sometimes second time encounters. My theory is that this is part personal physiology and part nervousness or anxiety.

Oral sex is great, but not all girls do this the first time around with a new partner. Two tricks have saved me (and my manhood for that matter) over the last 3 years. If I think there is a better than 50/50 chance of making love with a girl that night, I take a half a dose of Cialis an hour or two before the deed. Usually, this alone works as a solution.

Sometimes, I have extra high anxiety just before inserting the penis. So I make a "O" with my pointer finger and thumb outside the vagina and poke it in there a couple of times before "going in" for real. The girl does not notice this and it provides the little extra boost necessary to get me over the hump (no pun intended).

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A male reader, Myth United States +, writes (14 August 2008):

i find getting some ORAL help works great, cuz i can be hard and go soft when the action is close. i try to get s Super Boner before condom time by recieving oral and coming close to ejacultaion a few times.. be carefull not to tho heh. this also prolongs my endurance when intercourse begins.

Nerves and Uncertainty will cause Flaccidness and large emissions of precum.

and to the guy that gets hardons more often then usual, be happy friend, u are truly blessed :)

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2008):

I have this stupid & embarrassing problem. My leaky penis problem was so bad that, my bed sheet have several big spots after sex. I got this problem fixed after trying ejaculation control technique on herbal love dot com. I still have some leak out, but it's way better than before.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2008):

Hi!

I am not able to answer this question, because it happens to me. I have two defects 1. I cant hold my erection for a longtime, not even for a minute. Whn my girl friend touch my penis, I will start leaking. We cant even have sex because as I leak I will lose my penis erection. She feels very disappointed and tells me that she was not satisfied.

She thinks when I leak I get satisfied.

Is there any answers to my question??

Please help me:-)

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2007):

i have teh same problem, but i will have an erection until we are about to have sex then as soon as we get ready i cant get it up again..

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2007):

what if you're not with anyone and you aren't really anything that could really turn you on or arrouse you sexually, can thoughts themselves cause this "pre-cum" to ocurr, or are there any ways of stopping this leakage faster, sometimes mine drips throughout an entire day and is very uncomfortable, if possible somebody mail me some info at [email address blocked]. This is a sensitive topic for me. Also, a little off topic of this subject but I seem to experiance more erections throughout the day than most other males. Some of the only times i don't experiance an erection from day to day is when i'm playing sports. Answers would be much appreciated ;)

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A female reader, sjd +, writes (15 September 2006):

sjd agony auntI am not a guy, but my ex boyfriend found a way to control his leakage to a certain extent. While it was not completely controllable, he was able to prevent a huge mess and he also was able to control when he orgasmed. No worries though...it's normal and some girls find it arousing. No one has addressed the male pc muscle. Woman do kegal exercises, but men should too. Your pc muscle is the muscle that you use to stop in the midst of urinating or to flex. Can you make your penis bounce on command? If not start practicing controlling your pc muscle. Some basic exercises, include quickly clenching and releasing your pc muscle. You can also clench the muscle and hold it for periods of time. If you want other detailed exercies you can google male kegal exercises. This way when you start to feel a leak, you can squeeze a little. Also, another benefit of these exercises...once you start having intercourse your girlfriend will love it! You can not only learn to hold your orgasm until she gets off, you can also "flex" your muscle while having sex and to her it will feel amazing! Good Luck and I hope this helps!

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A male reader, Yos Netherlands +, writes (15 September 2006):

Yos agony auntBoth things you describe are very normal and common.

The first is something you can't do anything about, but it's no problem, don't worry about it. Just be careful contraception-wise because it is semen and it can get your girlfriend pregnant.

The second is just nerves, like you said. Once you get more used to each other and more comfortable with each other it should naturally go away.

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A female reader, playbunny206 +, writes (14 September 2006):

It is perfectly normal for your penis to 'leak' a bit when you are exited. As you become erect, your penis will push a small amount of semen out (be careful she can become pregnant from this)and its perfectly natural.

As for losing an erection you may be nervous without knowing it causing it to flop espesially if its your first time. Take more time to explain that you are nervous and im sure she will understand if she is mature about it. just take yor time and im sure it will come naturally. Good luck!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2006):

Hiya,

Firstly, no you're not prematurely ejaculating - the fluid you're 'leaking' is pre-cum, this happens when a man becomes pretty aroused.....it's perfectly natural and some women find it a turn on (i know i do) and secondy, I would say yes, that the reason you seem to lose your erection whenever your gf goes near it is down to nerves....just relax and enjoy the moment and if u do lose it, don't worry - it'll only make things worse and afterall its no big deal. Take ur time and it'll all fit into place i'm sure.

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A female reader, !*! Helen !*! +, writes (14 September 2006):

try and wash under ur forskin wen u have a bath or something and remmber to wash regually.

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A female reader, Suzanna +, writes (14 September 2006):

Suzanna agony auntAnswer to question 1:

The wetness you are referring to is a slippery clear fluid called "pre-ejaculation fluid" or "pre-cum". You are right that it is not premature ejaculation, it is simply a drop or two of fluid that oozes out of your penis when you are aroused. This is entirely normal and it provides extra lubrication to help with sex. Some guys produce a lot, some little and some none, but it is certainly nothing to worry about. As you know your girlfriend would be lubricating lots as well. So relax, your girlfriend would be delighted that she is able to turn you on!

Answer to question 2: I am not a doctor but it sounds just like nerves to me. Take time to get to know each other bodies, communicate and I am sure you will be alright!

Good luck! XxX

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2006):

Firstly the leakiness is not uncommon, doesn't happen in all men tho. This is called 'pre cum' its a sign that you're really sexually attracted to this girl. The fact that your erection disappears when she goes near it is just nerves. Just take things really slowly, you don't have to rush anything and yes you are very normal.

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