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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:This guy, Boar is creeping me out, sickening me. We met a few months ago and at first, I overlooked the fact that he was unattractive to try and see if we connected mentally. He was nice but I found his humor disgusting, he was ignorant and made racist jokes. So I told him, its not going to work. He begged to stay friends so ok, I agreed but virtually ignored him a lot. He lives in a different city and he'd drive down, force his company on me even as I ran. Then, he claims hes in love with me. Stalks me on fb. I tell him I have a bf, he checks into a psychiatric ward for 5 days. Now, he goes and sleeps with my depressed, anxious best friend-takes advantage of her. She cries to me all night and says it was painful and that he treated her like a whore. He calls me and asks if I'm jealous. I'm scared. Hes 6'8, over 200lbs and my friend told me he admitted to choking a girl before. He knows where I live. I plan to change my # but what else can I do to safely erase him from my life?
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reader, pixiegirls +, writes (23 December 2010):
 The first thing you need to do is stop talking to him or having any contact with him. Block him on fb. Block his phone from calling you. But most importantly, do not be available to respond to him. If he happens to come to your town, to your apartment….do not answer the door. If he seems to know you are at home and refuses to leave, call the police. By severing all contact, this hopefully will make him lose interest and leave you alone. You should also document each time he attempts to make contact, what was said, with the date and time. This record may be needed if you begin to have a very difficult time with his stalking by showing how he is harassing you. You may also want to contact your police department to see how they handle stalking and harassment situations. How did he happen to meet your best girlfriend? If she continues to see him, make sure you inform her that you do not wish to discuss him, and that she not discuss you or anything about you to him. You cannot control her relationship with him, but can control yours.Good luck!
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