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writes: I lied to my boyfriend about being divorced when we started dating. We now live together and are engaged. I have started the divorce process, but I am afraid this will come up later and just want to come clean so that their are no more lies between us. Any advice on how to approach?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2005): Why were you afraid to tell him the truth to begin with? If you lied about this, he may ask himself "what else has she lied about?" I would come clean with him NOW-at least he deserves that and it takes the worry off your shoulders. If you had a very good reason for hiding it from him, then tell him that too. Frankly, I can't see why you lied about this, but if your relationship has been open and honest in all other aspects-there's a good chance
he'll be forgiving of your "one time lie". From now on, never allow fear of rejection rule your life by keeping important information from him. You need to believe in yourself and understand that if he loves you...he will be there to keep supporting you through thick and thin. If he
doesn't support you in other aspects of your life...then do you want to really be with this guy? Lots to consider and good luck.
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reader, Anastasia  +, writes (29 August 2005):
 Hi,
What you can do is sit him down and tell him that you need to have a serious conversation. Tell him how it has been eating you up for a while now and you believe in being honest even though it is late but that you want to come clean with him instead of holding back anything. And just tell him that you lied to him about the divorce. Don't expect him to not be mad cause that is a serious thing...understand his reason for being angry as well. Tell him that too. AFter that honey, the ball will be in his court as to how he will react but at least you got it off your chest.
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