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How do I start having orgasms again?

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Question - (3 March 2010) 1 Answers - (Newest, 3 March 2010)
A female United States age 22-25, anonymous writes:

So, my boyfriend has been rubbing me 'down there' and fingering me down there and I used to get orgasms.. but I dont anymore.. Is there anyway to increase getting them?

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A female reader, BagLady United States +, writes (3 March 2010):

Yes. As long as something medically wrong isn't happening-you should be able to. One thing that will stop a female orgasm dead in it's tracks....Is worrying about whether she will be able to orgasm. Also-you may need more variation-doing the same things will become routine and too familiar. Also your time of the month varies which hormones you have in your system-if you start to pay attention to your body, you will notice that your horniness peaks a certain time a month (you're probably ovulating). Another thing is that females are different than guys as far as sex drive-guys can go from 0-60 in no time if you give them about 30 minutes. You will take much longer to bounce back from orgasms-almost like you need to recharge. You could try visual stimulation if you guys watch something sexy like pornography together or you can alone. Temperature also helps-if his fingers are cold (you can keep an ice cube nearby) it makes you more sensitive to what he is doing. He could slowly touch you around the clitoris and slowing insert his fingers. Fast strokes don't usually work over a long period of time-change up the tempo and speed so your body can't predict what he is doing.

Again, don't think about having an orgasm-just think about him and what he is doing and how it feels.

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