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How do I prevent arguments before they start?

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Question - (4 July 2010) 1 Answers - (Newest, 4 July 2010)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, *mjo writes:

Me and my boyfriend of a year and four months are going on holiday for a week very soon however as of late small things he does seem to be annoying me more than usual. Also we have very contrasting ideas about what makes a 'good' holiday as we come from slightly different background where holidays follow different patterns. He keeps saying "You cant expect it to be like every holiday you've ever been on before" which I am fine with and understand as we both want to make new memories however he doesn't seem to want to budge on his side and he doesn't seem to realise this. How can I make him realise this, or use subtle hints to instigate a compromise, does any one have any advice as to how to make such a holiday work?

I am a bit worried as well about arguments, I've never been away without family before and I'm worried that we will get into arguments, he is often very cuddly and clingy at times, which is fine however in a hot country I can see that getting a little too much if he's all over me when its very very warm. This among other things is what I am afraid will spark arguments as he can be rather moody at times, so really here I'm looking for advice on how best to diffuse arguments? How can it be extinguished before it even starts? Normally I wouldn't have a problem with this however he is often very dismissive and argumentative, he dislikes being wrong and doesn't like to admit when he is. help.

Thanks!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2010):

Don't fight back. Just don't do it. I know that might If you love 'im, and you don't wanna argue . . . no reaction should take care of it.

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