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How do I prepare for sex?

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Question - (8 July 2006) 9 Answers - (Newest, 4 April 2008)
A female , anonymous writes:

I'm a 20 y/o female. I've been with my boyfriend for about 3 months. He want's to have sex, but only when I'm ready. He's aware that I'm a virgin. I think I'm ready as ready as i'll ever be anyway We are hanging out this weekend. He dones't know that I'm planning to have sex with him, I want ot let it happen. I think if I tell him i'll just get nervous and back out. We have only kissed, no oral sex - I'm not into it. I've been reading and posting on this site many times and have followed plenty advice. What I want to know is there anything I should prepare myself for before the experience. I'm pretty naive and not really sure what to expect form my boyfriend or the act itself. sorry if i sound dumb i just want to be able to not be exactly impressive but at least leave a good impression.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2008):

OHHHH My goodness. I am in the EXACT same situation...but I have done a bit more...still no oral....but anyway. I hope it went well for you, and wish me luck!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2008):

You need to ensure that the relationship is going somewhere its great that you want to have sex but draw it out talk to him about the before and after instead of wondering how it will turn out don't be afarid to plan it. Its more exciting to surprise him the second or third time but remember he maybe as nervous as you and would like to be prepared himself.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2007):

dont do it, hold on to your virginity!!!!!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2007):

I'd reconsider wanting to have sex with your boyfriend. Sex is serious and not something to be taken lightly. You will only be a virgin once, and I'm sure your future husband will value your virginity. You might think that you are ready now, but sex should be saved for marriage.

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A female reader, pica +, writes (9 July 2006):

"prepare yourself for the experience" are you taking a test ;) I think the idea of just letting it happen is good. However, going straight from kissing to intercourse is a bit fast - there's a lot can happen in between. Enjoying being physical together without sex can make it easier to have sex when the time is right. Take it slowly, try things and see what feels comfortable. Get used to each other's bodies. But do be prepared with contraception!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2006):

I am sure he understands how you feel, so, the most advice i can give is use protection. If you use tampons, this will not affect you, if you still use sanitary towels when you are on your period, you could have a small stinging pain as you are having sex, This is caused by the penis breaking the very thin skin in your vagina. This pain on lasts while it is breaking and it breaks pretty quickly. Its not very nice to be reading things like this but It is best for you to know just in case. I hope this has helped you. If you need any more help, please mail me. Good luck!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2006):

I'd agree with the previous answers, make sure you use contraception and take along some KY jelly or other water based lubricant, suitable for use with comdoms, as you may be uncomfortable depending on sizes! Take things easy and enjoy. Know what you want and dont feel nervous he sounds like a good understanding guy

Good luck and feel free to post how it went

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2006):

Make sure you feel nice and clean as this will make you more confident!! Also wearing nice underwear helps with the confidence too and will make you feel sexier!

Obviously there's the issue of contraception as well (since he's not expecting it, you can't expect him to be the 'prepared' one!).

Good luck and have fun!! x

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A reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2006):

fore play and plenty of kissing

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