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How do I politely ask that they donate my fee to charity?

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Question - (3 October 2017) 7 Answers - (Newest, 4 October 2017)
A female age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Hi Aunts and Uncles,

I have a somewhat boring question, but never the less I need some advice.

How do I politely ask that the money I earned (which is not a lot) be given to a charity?

I don't want to sound weird or arrogant...

A friend of mine asked me to do something for her brother's firm on a very short notice. She called at 6 AM and I had it done by 8 AM.

For me it was no big deal, but they were really stuck, their coworker let them down big time and they had a deadline approaching. My friend insisted they would pay me and since I didn't want to argue with her that I didn't want money for that kind of work, I said OK, knowing that I won't accept it.

The work I did was connected to some charities and homeless people. I really feel that the little money I earned should be given to charity. I just don't know how to say it. I wouldn't want them to think that I somehow believed that what they do should be done for free...

Anyway, thank you all for taking the time to read this and maybe give me some advice :)

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2017):

Thank you sooooo much for your replies.

Even though money transfer is complicated, since the firm is registered in another country, I'll see with my friend first if it's too complicated for them to donate in my name.

If it is, I'll take the money and donate it myself.

Thank you again!

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A female reader, Andie's Thoughts United Kingdom +, writes (4 October 2017):

Andie's Thoughts agony auntIt may be worth donating it yourself, to avoid complicating things. Why are you more interested in them doing it than you?

To make sure the money gets donated, do it yourself. It's your business what you do with your earnings, but most companies feel they need to pay their employees (including you), not give that money to charity, as the person can do that themselves.

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A female reader, YouWish United States +, writes (4 October 2017):

YouWish agony auntYou've already told THEM okay, meaning you could burn social bridges and make for some awkward dealings if you reverse yourself.

Take the payment gracefully, and then YOU donate to charity. You serve your own principles as well as keep things on a good note with your friend. Remember, your good heart doesn't have to come at the cost of making someone else uncomfortable, and they may not share your sensibilities. They may believe that a worker is worthy of compensation for their time. I agree with them, and I agree with you as well.

You do the honors of picking the charity, and you donate it. Keep your eyes on the prize here -- your principles are about DONATING to charity, not making it LOOK like you're donating to charity.

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A male reader, Been there Now over it United States +, writes (4 October 2017):

If you get a tax deduction for charitable contributions (which you do if you live in the USA), tell them that you believe so firmly in their mission that you are donating the money to their cause and only want a receipt for tax purposes.

I don't see any reason at all to be ashamed or a need to be humble because you are donating the money to their cause. My older sister - who made much less money than me - shared with me her careful analysis of various charities and how she was able to make a difference with what money she had. This set an example for me and I began my own donation program. I wouldn't have done so if not for my sister's example. So I don't see any reason not to publicize that you are charitable...on the contrary, you are giving not just the money but are also showing a great example to those who see you giving it.

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A female reader, Tisha-1 United States +, writes (4 October 2017):

Tisha-1 agony aunt"I was happy to help a worthy company and a worthy cause. It would be very special to me that you honor this great cause by giving them any renumeration attributed to me.

"Thank you so much for honoring this worthy cause."

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A female reader, Ciar Canada + , writes (3 October 2017):

Ciar agony auntI'd go with Option 2 and just donate it yourself. They might have to get something in writing from you etc etc..

The second options seems the most straight forward.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (3 October 2017):

Honeypie agony aunt

Option #1

When they mention the pay, tell them please donate it to XX organization instead.

If that works for the firm,

Option #2

if not - get the money and donate them yourself. It might be more hassle than it's worth for those couple of hours work you did - so I might just go with option #2 myself. You don't make anyone feel obligated to go through extra hoops for a little donation.

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