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writes:How do I overcome my social anxiety? I started university in September and although I quite enjoy the course I feel incredibly lonely and cut off from people as I have trouble making friends.Since I finished school 4 years ago I've found that I have real trouble forming bonds with people, and even with the friends I do have I often find myself being the person who's not invited to social gatherings etc. (apparently I don't put myself 'out there' and my friends don't realise that I actually want to spend time with them) which makes things worse as I feel even more insecure because of it. I haven't made any real friends since I was 13. I've kind of made a friend since I got here but for some reason when she invites me to spend time with her I often say no, even though I'm miserable and lonely and enjoy her company. What's wrong with me? And how do I overcome this?
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reader, Holli' +, writes (12 January 2010):
 You sound like me, I made some friends a while ago but never want to spend time with them, im shy and not at all confident. My problem is I struggle to find things to talk about. Therefore making myself feel left out, not needed or wanted. The only way is to gain confidence, and the easiest way to do that is by socailising though it wont be a peice of cake at first. Around campuss there should be loads of places were studens hang out, get your Kind of friend and ask her to go to one of these places with you start to talk to, well anybody ask them what course they're doing, their hobbies, where their from, what music they like. You might even find you have a good time. Good luck. Hope I helped.
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reader, RAINORFIRE  +, writes (12 January 2010):
 hhmm well i suggest a professional, You need to probably get help. What ever your problem s its probably to deep for you to solve on your own
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