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30-35,
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writes:My close friend and roommate has been dating a guy for several months now. I don't know him that well, but recently he has been sending me texts and facebook messages asking how my close friend acts in relationships. For example he sent me if he thought my roommate was still hung up on her ex. I keep telling him to talk to her about these things but it doesnt seem to happen.Should I tell my roommate that her boyfriend has been contacting me over these things? I feel like its maybe a little weird, and I don't her to find out in the long run and feel like maybe I was talking behind her back. I also don't want her boyfriend to feel like I betrayed him...
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reader, Ciar  + ♥, writes (20 October 2014):
 He appears to have a difficulty recognizing and respecting other people's boundaries. not just yours, but your friend's as well.
He'll stop contacting you when you start ignoring him and he finally realises it's pointless.
You could forward any texts or emails he sends to your friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2014): Tell the guy that she is your best friend and all your loyalty's lie with her. Tell him it is best he doesn't contact you again or you will have to be upfront with your friend about it as her friendship is your priority. Then if I were you, I would tell your friend. Her bf will respect you for being a good friend, or he may just be out of the picture in time anyway. I suggest you tell your friend as soon as possible, otherwise you have a 'secret' your are holding from her. It is totally and utterly inappropriate for him to contact you directly about her, and he should expect that you would tell her.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (20 October 2014):
 I would ignore him. And I would tell him WHY you are ignoring him. That you ARE not one of the TWO people IN the relationship and you have no intentions of being put in the middle.
NOW IF, this guy was a gOOD CLOSE friend of yours I could understand him asking you, but from what you write he doesn't seem to be, so I'd stay WAY out of that bucket of worms.
If she later hears he talked to you, then you can tell her what you told him, THAT you are staying OUT of their relationship.
You are not "betraying" anyone by staying out of their relationship.
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