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writes:I was in a long term relationship 2 years ago and I ended being heartbroken when my b/f cheated on me. I am now working and have found a colleague that I have fallen for. He is intrested in me too, he once told me that he wanted to have a go with me but I didn't think he was serious so I told him I can't. I mean he acted in a way that made me feal that he wanted only sex from me, I don't want to end up being fooled again but I really love him, I started playing hard to get. Now he is avoiding me, please help me coz I really love him but I don't want him to know right away coz he might take advantage of that. Please advise how do I make him fall for me? How do I make him realize how I feel for him without looking desparate or like a fool? How do I get him to talk to me again? How do I make myself irresistible and attractive to him? I am afraid coz I have been hurt before.
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reader, Ginalolabridga  + ♥, writes (20 January 2009):
 Hi,
Try and get him alone and speak to him tell him you felt you made a mistake bu refusing to go out with him before and can you both start again? Then you can ask him for a drink or if you have your own place ask him over make him a meal just don't be to OTT and see what happens unfortunately when you refused his advances he would have took that as you not being interested in him so you are the one now who will have to do the running if you want him that badly good luck!
Gina
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your help but I still have a problem after I let his proposal down I think he decided to search for greener pastures. I tried to aply what you told me but he is avoiding me and so its hard for me to invite him out. I also found out recently that he has been flirting with a friend of mine at work and I got hurt. How do I tame him? How do I make him to stop being a player? How do I make myself attractive to him? How do I make myself irresistible to him? Please help coz am really in love with him.
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reader, Miss Potter +, writes (7 January 2009):
 Hey, Id ask him out for a drink first. Just a casual evening together? Have some wine and relax and watch him carefully, listen to what he says. Ask him questions about himself, his life, let him talk and you do the listening. He will feel comfortable having such a good listener and if the evening goes well he will be keen on having another evening together maybe a dinner next time. Take it slowly and watch out for the signs that he is interested in you.
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reader, Ginalolabridga + ♥, writes (7 January 2009):
Can you ask him out to dinner? just to begin with see how it goes and if you both feel compatible you can take it further as he has asked you before and you gave him the impression you could'nt date him and also playing hard to get he will have backed off you have scared him away! So you need to take the bull by the horn as it were now ask him out for dinner that way it is you taking the lead and he will feel you genuinely want to go out with him good luck.
Gina
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