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writes:I had been dating a man for over two years. As he is in mining he was hardly ever home, and I lived about two hours away and would travel to see him when he was. We were in love, but then when I suggested it was time for us to live together he backed off, and eventually we called it quits about a year ago. I have met another man online about 6 months ago, and we are getting along famously, so well in fact he has asked me to move in with him. When I told my ex about my plans, he said he wanted me to move in with him instead. I am so torn with what to do, I have very strong feelings for both of them and cannot make a decision.
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reader, katatonik  +, writes (30 December 2008):
 You have to, as it's not fair to either of them to lead both on while you try to make up your mind.
Why do you think your ex has now asked you to live with him when he was opposed to the idea before? Jealousy? Or do you think he is sincere? Has his work situation changed? Will you see him as often as you would like if you do accept his offer?
What about the online guy? Have the two of you met in person? Do you feel that a six-month period of acquaintance is enough to warrant this substantial step in a relationship?
If you are truly this torn over which one to move in with, I suspect that your feelings for either may not be strong/committed enough to make such a commitment a particularly wise move. In short, you need to make up your mind NOW about which guy you prefer and stop leading the other one on. But don't move in with either until you can really be sure what you are looking for here. Good luck.
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reader, Arianz  +, writes (30 December 2008):
 Dear,
I understand your feelings. But My suggestion is that please take more time before you go.
Cause you have to see:
Who is more caring?
Who is moe loving?
With whom you feel more comfortable?
With whom you life will be fine?
AND who is more understanding?
Now you have to compare them for you life bettement.
BUT
Your EX back off one time so I don't think he will be trustable person. cause who can back off one time...that person can makes it any other time too...
So focus on your current boyfriend.
i hope if you have well understanding then it will work so good.
please take time
take care your health and mind.
wish you all the best
arianz
(my english is not good enough so please don't mind if I use any rong words)
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2008): Who do you have the deepest feelings for? And the biggest connection with? Which is it that you can live without? Follow your heart!!!
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