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How do I know my online guy is for real?

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Question - (26 June 2012) 16 Answers - (Newest, 4 July 2012)
A female Philippines age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I have meet a guy in on a dating site , we only send mails with each other within a month and he tells me he loves me and wants to be his wife,i am confuse as of now if i'll believe him or not ,what will i dont know if his for real

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2012):

yes he scam me suddly :( jeff henry and i send the photo's and his contact number and email to uk also in malaysia

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2012):

THIS GUY JEFF TONY,. OR TONY JEFF IS AT A DATING SITE FILIPINO TO DATE.. I also met him there just sad its too late for me to read about this SCAMMER, LIAR,,. for I believed in him, I am stupid but i learned a lot,. Never SEND MONEY,.. but its done,. But good thing i didnt respond to 2nd mail, that i need to pay tax,.. I found this site because i search 4XHG at google and this site will appear so i start reading and i got it,. HE IS A FAKE GUY, SCAMMER!!!. he send the same email to me .. all scripted and never mention my name and don't respond to all my question,. Hope an authority will look for this guy,. to be PUNISHED,. maybe he can escape now,. BUT HE can never escape the punishment of GOD. right now His Soul is already in HEll Burning in FIRE that he experienced forever,..

Girls watch out for this Guy and read all the scripted emails,. we don't want another victim.Specially Filipina. I think this people are from NIGERIA using fake pictures and Identity ,. to scam people.. Big syndicate online dating scammer

Here are some of the emails.

Sent: Friday, June 8, 2012 12:18 AM

Subject: THINGS ABOUT ME

Hello dear,

It is with great pleasure mailing you and a nice atmosphere. First I would like to introduce myself to you, My name is Jeff Tony and am 49years old. I'm from Scotland. It is a self-governing Crown Dependency of the United Kingdom between the islands of Great Britain and Ireland. I had my studies in business management which am into supplying of Garnet stone to companies and individuals , US, UK and Asia , I have been to some Asian countries like , China , India , Singapore and Malaysia and I have been successful in my job. My dad is late(69 YEARS) while mum(61 YEARS) is still alive active and healthy. I have been lonely all my life because is very difficult to find someone nice , who is honest and straightforward , but I still believe there some woman out there with a kind heart and faithful type.

Dear I'm just living this whole life alone since I broke up with my ex, sometimes I feel sad and out of touch, so I think I'm too lonely and also am not getting any younger, so I seek for a woman whom I will spend the rest of my life with as am very serious looking for a life partner. I'm ready to commit everything to make this dream come into reality. My hobbies are , swimming , shopping , sightseeing, I love traveling base on my job and I love music so much. My favorite colors are white, red , green and my luck number is 4.

I took up engineering studies for three years and I’m a Marine Engineer and a business man to the core. I love my jobs so much though it’s stressful but very lucrative. In terms of business, I buy some electrical equipment’s and among the things I buy is Marine Chips which are used for many purposes such as Cleaning diamond, for milling of gold, it’s used for the purification of coal which would later turn as liquid and it’s mainly used in some parts of plane, ship etc. Although a lot of people are not aware of its uses and it’s a lot of money. This particular one called Marine Chips-XHG which is the main bone of contention in my business.

My dear is really nice meeting you here and I believe knowing each other will be a big bless to us . And am hoping to continue this our new communication to see where this can lead us, as I have already told you things about me, my job and hobbies, hope we can give a try to see what the future has for us. I attach you my pictures although it's not that beautiful and that's why I do not take pictures always.I am here in the US on a business trip for two weeks now...

I have to stop here and I will be waiting for your reply. Take care .

best regards

Tony

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Subject: MISSING YOU LIKE CRAZY

Sent: Mon, Jul 2, 2012 8:33:42 AM

Hi dear..;.PLEASE REPLY TO COMPANY AND CONFIRM THAT ALL THE INFORMATION IS RIGHT....AND YOU CAN AS WELL ASK THEM ANY QUESTION YOU DO NOT UNDERSTAND

In life, we receive a wonderful opportunity, and that is to love. Love comes in many forms. You love people in different ways and for different reasons, depending upon how they have touched your life. Love is a very powerful word and can describe a multitude of feelings, but its main context carries the same meaning..

I want to tell you that the love I have for you is undying. It is a love that is strong and enduring and will stand the test of time. I truly feel blessed that you have become a part of my life and I cannot wait for the day that we can join our lives together. I want to lie next to you at night and fall asleep in your arms, only to wake to your beautiful smile. I want to share in your joys and sorrows. I want to be your everything. You are everything to me.

You are everything I do. You see and bring out the best in me. You are the one I want to share everything with - my thoughts, hopes and dreams. Thinking of you makes my heart feel full. You are such a source of inspiration for me. I will forever be indebted to you for all you have brought to my life. So, to repay you, I promise you my heart and all the love in it for the rest of my life....( I am so much in love with you baby)...About the delivery,they could not let me know the delivery charges...I think they will let you know as soon they are ready to deliver....please help me and settle anything about the delivery charges...and please follow there any information they will give to you for delivery as soon as they call or email you.....

I will stop here for now...Waiting for the good news..

be live you and I trust,please do not let me down.. I am flying to Paris this morning on a business trip in the ship,You know that, specialize in Marine Tools and oil tools.I will call you when I get to Port of Paris please you can call me as well on my cell phone while I am in Paris...

Love always....My love do not worry our product is very save and is door to door delivery ....I trust and belive in you and please do not let me down..

Yours one and only and husband to-be soon....I have already paid for the product you will only help me and the delivery charges...that is not much...

Yours one in love and husband to be soon..

Tony

This is to inform you that we have finished processing Mr Jeff Tony

Product and are now ready to be sent to you as requested by him. We

request your urgent attention as the amount to send goods is

USD325............ This amount is the weight and amount as stated to be

used to send your Product.

Below are the breakdown of the details

Marine chips HXG (12 carton). These cartons are in a small packets.

In view of this, we request you send us the payment through Western Union

as it is the fastest and easy way to send and receive money around the

globe.

RECEIVER'S NAME: OGUERI MADUABUCHI

RECEIVER'S ADDRESS:Block E, #32(1st Floor) Taman Sri Sarawak Mall, Jalan

Tunku Abdul Rahman,Kuching Sarawak Malaysia

+60103424022

AMOUNT TO BE PAID: 7800 peso or 589.876 Malaysia Ringgit

Please note that any delay in payment would result to payment of over

stay/ demourage charge USD220 per day as we do not have enough space to

keep your goods.

MOTTO: Customer's satisfaction is our pride.

Thank you,

Mrs. Lau U.V

Sent: Monday, July 2, 2012 7:09 PM

Subject: URGENT ATTENTION

This is to inform you that we have finished processing Mr Jeff Tony

Product and are now ready to be sent to you as requested by him. We

request your urgent attention as the amount to send goods is

USD325............ This amount is the weight and amount as stated to be

used to send your Product.

Below are the breakdown of the details

Marine chips HXG (12 carton). These cartons are in a small packets.

In view of this, we request you send us the payment through Western Union

as it is the fastest and easy way to send and receive money around the

globe.

RECEIVER'S NAME: OGUERI MADUABUCHI

RECEIVER'S ADDRESS:Block E, #32(1st Floor) Taman Sri Sarawak Mall, Jalan

Tunku Abdul Rahman,Kuching Sarawak Malaysia

+60103424022

AMOUNT TO BE PAID: 7800 peso or 589.876 Malaysia Ringgit

Please note that any delay in payment would result to payment of over

stay/ demourage charge USD220 per day as we do not have enough space to

keep your goods.

MOTTO: Customer's satisfaction is our pride.

Thank you,

Mrs. Lau U.V

this is the email from so called globalmechanics,com

Sent: Monday, July 2, 2012 7:52 PM

Subject: PLEASE MY LOVE HELP ME AND SETTLE THE DELIVERY CHARGES

Dear wife to-be,

I checked my mail and the status of our product and fine out that our product is on hold will be deliver today if the delivery charges is paid in time today..I am so down had long day today and I need to sleep now .. ...please dear I cant do anything from here now...Cos I am at the submarine here in Port Paris...I mean at the ship port..please help us and make the payment for the delivery just for us to avoid dumorage charges.and I will pay you back whatever amount you spend for the delivery charges ok..It's just a small amount compared to our product...I trust you and I believe in you baby.... let me know when you make the payment ok....this is for our future.....I CANT WAIT TO BE WITH YOU BABY IN A FEW DAYS TIME..I'M HAPPY AM CLOSER TO YOU DEAR.I HAVE TO REST NOW...COS I HAVE YOU THERE ..THIS IS THE AMOUNT TO BE PAID: 7800 peso or 589.876 Malaysia Ringgit NOT THIS USD325..

MUCH LOVE FROM ME TO YOU...

YOURS HUSBAND TO-BE SOON

TONY

Sent: Tuesday, July 3, 2012 12:33 AM

Subject: I WILL CARE FOR YOU FOREVER

My sweet love ...

So happy to have you in my life and cant wait meet you...You make me feel so happy. I just cant move my sight out of you. I love you so much. you are so in my dreams all time. my sweet baby, we do think the same. I look forward to our meeting. I do wish to be with you very soon and I know we are compatible to each other to be husband and wife . my darling I miss you as much as you miss me. There is nothing in my life now but you. Everything I do is something to get ready to be with you. Every day I write mail to you because it makes me feel that much closer to being with you.

My darling I feel the absence of you in my life. I feel the pain of living without you. But I know that our reward is at hand. I know that soon we will be together; we will be in each others arms. Our wait will be over and my happness in life is to be together,we will finally begin.

We will be married and our journey for the rest of our life will have begun. This not only makes me happy but my darling it also gives me a sense of peace. My darling I am so happy to hear your words of devotion to me.

You will have my complete attention and all of my love every day also. There is no one any where in the world who could ever take the place occupied by you in my heart. You are the queen of my life, you are my best friend, you are my lives partner, you are my trusted confidant, you are the advisor I turn to in good times and bad. You are my lover, my comforter, my help mate. You are everything to me, you lift me up to heights I could never reach by myself and you support me when I am there. With you beside me I will be the happinest man in the world! I have waited a life time to find you; I have waited another life time to be with you.

Now with our moment of happiness so close together all I can say to you is I love you! I love you with every fiber of my being, I love you with every breath I draw into my body, I love you with every drop of blood that flows through my veins. I will take you and love you as you have never been loved before; I will care for you like the precious treasure that you are ....With all my love, kisses and hugs to you........PLEASE MY LOVE DO THE BEST YOU CAN AND SETTLE THIS LAST PAYMENT OF TAX..I BELIEVE AND TRUST IN YOU SO MUCH..I HAVE ALREADY I TALK WITH THE COMPANY ON THE PHONE AND I TOLD THEM THAT MY WIFE I WILL SETTLE THE PAYMENT TODAY AS WELL.....

have a nice day and Thanks so much for your reply.....I LOVE YOU SO MUCH AND I CANT WAIT TO BE WITH YOU SOON...

...face to face......... Remember we have only few days from today to be......... together....the hotel the car WOwww I cant wait to be with my baby....

(The difference between a boss and a leader: a boss says "Go!", a leader says "Let's Go".).........

love you always.

your husband to-be soon

TONY

Sent: Sunday, July 1, 2012 7:18 PM

Subject: THE TIME HAS COME TO BE WITH MY BABY SOON

My baby,My Sweetheart,

I can not concentrate. You have been on my mind all day. I feel like stopping everyone that passes me to tell them that I have a wonderful Lady and we are meeting very soon. I almost feel like a school boy, you have me all giddy (happy). Today has been an especially hard day. I feel out of place here in my home now missing you,also getting ready things ready for my trip... I have been thinking about you. I feel as though part of me is missing. I want to be there with you. With each growing day my love for you grows.,. I can feel the love you have for me. I look at the time here and I think what time is it over there, I wonder what my Sweetheart is doing maybe sleeping. I wonder if she is okay. I wonder if she has eaten or if she is thinking about me.(yes I think about you a lot, there are so many things I want to know. Like, I wonder what your fingers look like, so I can imagine your hand in arm. …..I wish I could do that. There are so many things I

desire, mostly to be with you, to look into your eyes so you can see my eyes and how they are filled with love when I read your mail. How can it be that I am in love and have not met you? It is, because GOD said so. I feel your spirit and I know you feel mine.

Just as you want me to be happy, I want you to be happy. We will be a blessed and happy family. I want to be married to you until I die. Out there in Finland, people get married so quick then divorce even quicker, they get bored with each other. The LORD knows that, my sweetheart I will marry you until death do us path. He knows my heart and how committed I will be You are right, the key is trust. I will never give you reason to distrust me. I will always share with you. I will always come to you when I need advice or when I do not know what to do. You will be my covering, I love that! I respect that. Truly the god has smiled on me because of you. I wish I could show you my heart so you will know the love that is there for you...

My love...below here is all the information you needed to track the product .....please take care of it ,I trust you please dont put me down...I am doing all this for the sake of LOVE.I can do anything to make you happy..cos your joy is my happness .If you are confused in any things, please call me ok. My love I will be flying to the port of Paris tomorrow morning the 2nd of July and from there to the Philippines,I will arrive in Philippines on the 10th of July ,we will plan for our wedding ...I will let you know the arrival time on the 10th of July I when I get to Port of Paris..please baby I trust and I be live in you......Remember that we are meeting very soon...I will call you before going to the airport...My love I will like to see all you family to let them know my intenion ok..when I arrival in the Philippines ...I trust and believe in you so much...please do not let me down.. I will be telling you what to do by email or by phone calls..

Tracking id... (your phone number)

Passworld....447031825775 (my phone number)

Company name ..Global Mechanics Inventory

Web site....www.globamechs.com

M full name Mr Tony Jeff

My Full address:

Albertinkatu 36 B

00180 HELSINKI PA16 8NG

Scotland,Uk

I will stop here for now untill when I get there...and I will show you how much I love and how I wanna care for you in this life baby......

Sooner or later,I know we will be together my love

Love you my sweetheart

Yours one in love

And husband to-be soon

Tony

To all the Girls out there.I hope this will keep you aware,. Look at the Photo maybe you know this guy,. and he might don't know his pictures are being used

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2012):

BEWARE OF THIS GUY, TONY JEFF OR JEFF TONY,

I AM a victim of all the same letters you guys posted, Yes with the receipt of the products to be ship in my name, and its worth $68,180, worth of Marine Chips 4XHG, I am vulnerable and believed in all his message and email,. though i have this gut feeling and some question , because he cannot answer all my question, and its like scripted email,I should have listen to my parents , But i learned a lot, NEVER EVER SEND MONEY,. and stop communicating if a guy ask you money,. HE Is a SCAMMER!a Liar, using Gods words.

He will be punished i am sure of that soon For using Gods word in vain,. and for all the SCAM

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2012):

dont believe on anything he said,he is a scammer and evil.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2012):

Hi All,

Just wanted to share my experience with this same guy, JEFF HENRY!

These are the same exact emails that he sent to me..

The website he gave you seems legit and he will even send you the scanned copy of the receipt of what he seemed to order.

It's a good thing I happen to bump into this site.

Please note that on his email, he wont bother to mention your name...

And for crying out loud he is using the name of God in his emails...

Karma's a bitch, i'll let it take care of him!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2012):

This is verified as being by the original poster of the question

thanks so much guys I knew it, coz every time I reply his answers where not answering my questions and its seams all scripted, he keeps on telling me about financial support which I am not interested into coz all I search is a soulmate , God thanks for the help from you guys

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A reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2012):

Dear a female...so sad that i had bad experience with this guy before but he admit that his name is Jeff Henry and he sent me the last email:

My precious sweetheart..

This July is my B-day/V day....I will be there with YOU and your family.this is one step to tell u that am a man of my own word's.. How are you baby?. I hope you are doing great right?. My regards to your family. I cant wait to be with you soon.One more thanks so much for coming into my life.I LOVE YOU SO MUCH I just want to start by telling you that there is nothing in this world that is more wonderful than love. I just wish you are here cos I love looking at you because you are a joy to behold and as I believe that you have such a beautiful smile when ever I am reading your email..Baby it is GOING TO BE full of warmth and lights up the room. My dear, as I glance through the mails you sent to me,I began to imagine you are here with me and I know that when I see you, I would love the twinkle in your eyes because it would let me know that am not only loved but the object of your passion and desire. As am here alone, I can imagine you and I would appreciate your wonderful figure because with your figure, seeing you in a sexy dress wows me, you are indeed a beautiful lady and a joy to my eyes. Do you know that you have made me feel at ease and even gave me more hope and also more trust in you and I really can't wait to meet up with you my love. I still want to say,thanks so much for coming into my life.

As I told you from my first email, I am an Engineer and a business man to the core. I love my jobs so much though it’s stressful but very lucrative. In terms of business, I buy some electrical equipment’s and among the things I buy is Marine Chips which are used for many purposes such as Cleaning diamond, for milling of gold, it’s used for the purification of coal which would later turn as liquid and it’s mainly used in some parts of plane, ship etc. Although a lot of people are not aware of its uses and it’s a lot of money. This particular one called Marine Chips-4XHG which is the main bone of contention in my business. Malaysia is where this Marine Chips-4XHG can be found very cheap,

I would love to visit you first week of July for us to celebrate the birthday together and to engage you above all for us to plan for our future together and as well to do my business as well but about my business,I have already done with the order online from here and they will deliver in your address cos willing Asia is duty free..Do that when I come I will have while going back as a hand carry .... which is this month and would like to spend two weeks with you if you don't mind. Just check your programmes and see if it suites you or not with the date I choose ok?. I don't think I would disturb your work in any way. Your wish is always my command baby. Before I book my flight please help me by given me your full name and full address,.here is the company name is GLOBAL MECHANICS INVENTORY and the web site..www.globamechs.com...please check it out and see what I am talking about.. I want to really give you a different side of life that you have not experienced before. But remember, am a very jealous human being and that is why I always make my partner more comfortable ......I will stop here now and hoping to hear from you soon.

Yours one in love and husband to be soon.

Jeff

Be careful girls

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States + , writes (28 June 2012):

So_Very_Confused agony auntYes it's a SCAM. He is a con man a cheat and a liar.

cut all contact NOW.

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A female reader, G's_Girl Portugal +, writes (28 June 2012):

G's_Girl agony auntDear Anonymous,

URGENT:

It's me again. I did some investigative work via google on the product Jeff mentions in his email to you, and not only have I found the product being reported, his name is also being reported on this site:

http://www.romancescam.com/forum/viewtopic.php?f=3&t=46243&p=249409

Below I quote the posting by another lady, and look how similar one paragraph specifically is!

"Re: is this a scammer?

by rowine on Sun Jun 17, 2012 11:16 am

here's the email he sent to me, he sent this email today...

Hello dear,

It is with great pleasure mailing you and a nice atmosphere. First I would like to introduce myself to you, My name is Jeff Joe Hill and am 46/47years old. I'm from Scotland. It is a self-governing Crown Dependency of the United Kingdom between the islands of Great Britain and Ireland. I had my studies in business management which am into supplying of Garnet stone to companies and individuals , US, UK and Asia , I have been to some Asian countries like , China , India , Singapore and Malaysia and I have been successful in my job. My dad is late(69 YEARS) while mum(61 YEARS) is still alive active and healthy. I have been lonely all my life because is very difficult to find someone nice , who is honest and straightforward , but I still believe there some woman out there with a kind heart and faithful type.

Dear I'm just living this whole life alone since I broke up with my ex, sometimes I feel sad and out of touch, so I think I'm too lonely and also am not getting any younger, so I seek for a woman whom I will spend the rest of my life with as am very serious looking for a life partner. I'm ready to commit everything to make this dream come into reality. My hobbies are , swimming , shopping , sightseeing, I love traveling base on my job and I love music so much. My favorite colors are white, red , green and my luck number is 4.

I took up engineering studies for three years and I’m a Marine Engineer and a business man to the core. I love my jobs so much though it’s stressful but very lucrative. In terms of business, I buy some electrical equipment’s and among the things I buy is Marine Chips which are used for many purposes such as Cleaning diamond, for milling of gold, it’s used for the purification of coal which would later turn as liquid and it’s mainly used in some parts of plane, ship etc. Although a lot of people are not aware of its uses and it’s a lot of money. This particular one called Marine Chips-XHG which is the main bone of contention in my business.

My dear is really nice meeting you here and I believe knowing each other will be a big bless to us . And am hoping to continue this our new communication to see where this can lead us, as I have already told you things about me, my job and hobbies, hope we can give a try to see what the future has for us. I attach you my pictures although it's not that beautiful and that's why I do not take pictures always.I am here in the US on a business trip for two weeks now...

I have to stop here and I will be waiting for your reply. Take care .

best regards

Hill"

--- I would suggest you report him to that site or others via google as well, and stop immediate contact with him.

Best Wishes.

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A female reader, Abella United States + , writes (28 June 2012):

Abella agony auntYour guy is not for real.

And wow is he trying too hard. So much more detail than he needed to say, which screamed out fake to me too.

There are some dangerous bad people in the world. One of the things they do is sound too good to be true.

What this guy wrote to you is utterly fake sounding. Even if he does have a questionable web site.

One of the most common ways men get women into prostitution is the method he is adopted. To give you a better idea of how these scammers work please watch the film :

“Human Trafficking”

with Mira Sorvino and Donald Sutherland.

You can even watch the film in parts on Youtube:

http://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLA3B829C462FD8140

The film shows how gullible girls and women are sold into a life time of prostitution. Using exactly the same method as he is using and just the same as the film, Human Trafficking describes.

The girls are duped into thinking they have found a wonderful boyfriend or a wonderful future husband. Not true.

Once girls are tricked into meeting the man or travelling with the man they are soon sold on to become prostitutes for these predatory men/

Then they are trapped in sexual servitude. Often requiring the girls or women to service hundreds of strange men (with sex) and live in degrading terrible conditions

The organizers also manipulate these unfortunate victims with trickery into thinking they owe the organizers thousands of dollars. The organizers also confiscate the women or the girls passport so they cannot leave the country they are taken to - to provide sex for strangers.

The web site proves nothing. It is just window dressing. And very amateur at that.

Cut ALL contact with this man to avoid becoming his next victim. Get a new email and never ever contact him ever again.

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A female reader, G's_Girl Portugal +, writes (28 June 2012):

G's_Girl agony auntDear Anonymous,

STOP!!!!!!!

This guy is a conman! He is moving too fast, and already wants YOUR FULL NAME AND ADDRESS!!! He will pretend to have a parcel delivered to you, and ask you to PAY for it and he will then pay you when he comes there. In fact, what will happen is, you pay, he and his friends pocket the money and you never see him.

There are many many scams like this on the internet.

The only way you have to prove that this guy is for real, is to check out the website he gave you. To call the company and check he is an employee there. To wait until he makes good on the promise to come and visit... then let him visit and let family and friends whose emotions are not involved, see what they think of him.

This is too new for him already to take over, and want to deliver stuff to your address, thereby forcing you too soon to part with personal information.

The beautiful, poetic flowery words are just that - words. You need to wait for his actions to follow suit. You need to give it time. DO NOT let him rush you headlong into disaster. Time will prove if his words are for real, or just smooth words from a conman who says them to any lady to get his way/money/whatever is his game.

Don't give him your personal info. Until he tells you he will be in your country, on what date, what flight, etc. you then meet him with friends/family at the airport, and THAT is the only time you give your full details. Before that, he gets the info and tries to defraud you.

I've read and seen way too many of these scams not to recognise one in the making. A man of his business ability to suddenly need your address to have something delivered? no way, does not sound good at all.

Be careful OP, and keep us posted.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2012):

This is verified as being by the original poster of the question

thanks so much guys for you advice, here is his last mail i dont get it why his order has to be sent to my address , is this a scam or what?

My precious sweetheart..

This July is my B-day/V day....I will be there with YOU and your family.this is one step to tell u that am a man of my own word's.. How are you baby?. I hope you are doing great right?. My regards to your family. I cant wait to be with you soon.One more thanks so much for coming into my life.I LOVE YOU SO MUCH I just want to start by telling you that there is nothing in this world that is more wonderful than love. I just wish you are here cos I love looking at you because you are a joy to behold and as I believe that you have such a beautiful smile when ever I am reading your email..Baby it is GOING TO BE full of warmth and lights up the room. My dear, as I glance through the mails you sent to me,I began to imagine you are here with me and I know that when I see you, I would love the twinkle in your eyes because it would let me know that am not only loved but the object of your passion and desire. As am here alone, I can imagine you and I would appreciate your wonderful figure because with your figure, seeing you in a sexy dress wows me, you are indeed a beautiful lady and a joy to my eyes. Do you know that you have made me feel at ease and even gave me more hope and also more trust in you and I really can't wait to meet up with you my love. I still want to say,thanks so much for coming into my life.

As I told you from my first email, I am an Engineer and a business man to the core. I love my jobs so much though it’s stressful but very lucrative. In terms of business, I buy some electrical equipment’s and among the things I buy is Marine Chips which are used for many purposes such as Cleaning diamond, for milling of gold, it’s used for the purification of coal which would later turn as liquid and it’s mainly used in some parts of plane, ship etc. Although a lot of people are not aware of its uses and it’s a lot of money. This particular one called Marine Chips-4XHG which is the main bone of contention in my business. Malaysia is where this Marine Chips-4XHG can be found very cheap,

I would love to visit you first week of July for us to celebrate the birthday together and to engage you above all for us to plan for our future together and as well to do my business as well but about my business,I have already done with the order online from here and they will deliver in your address cos willing Asia is duty free..Do that when I come I will have while going back as a hand carry .... which is this month and would like to spend two weeks with you if you don't mind. Just check your programmes and see if it suites you or not with the date I choose ok?. I don't think I would disturb your work in any way. Your wish is always my command baby. Before I book my flight please help me by given me your full name and full address,.here is the company name is GLOBAL MECHANICS INVENTORY and the web site..www.globamechs.com...please check it out and see what I am talking about.. I want to really give you a different side of life that you have not experienced before. But remember, am a very jealous human being and that is why I always make my partner more comfortable ......I will stop here now and hoping to hear from you soon.

Yours one in love and husband to be soon.

Jeff

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A female reader, G's_Girl Portugal +, writes (27 June 2012):

G's_Girl agony auntHow do you know your online guy is for real?

You take it slow, give it time, and see if actions follow words. Don't rush into anything. Don't part with any money, no matter what the excuse is.

There have been many success stories of online love, but there have also been many horror stories. I myself had some experience in the past. One turned out to be dating and about to get married and lied saying he was single. Another one wrote, called, emailed, Skyped, and in the end disappeared for no good reason. So even when they appear to be totally infactuated saying they want to marry you, give it time... time reveals much! True colours, to be exact.

So continue the emails, put the brakes on, and enjoy the excitement of someone who shares your interests. Guard your heart as you get to know him. In time, you will know if he is for real or not. The others on here also gave great advice, like getting his real name, address, and all those things without which you won't make a move. Be safe.

Lastly, nothing beats the real thing though! Having found The One in real life, through mutual friends, it was MUCH easier - there was a reference for him; you could spend quality and quantity time together, you could really get to know him, and distance was not a factor.

However, knowing the possibilities of cyberworld, I would suggest you continue with your love interest, and see where it goes, but use common sense, be careful and most importantly: give it lots of time!

Good Luck.

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A male reader, Sageoldguy1465 United States +, writes (26 June 2012):

Sageoldguy1465 agony auntI think my Brother was very smart when he told me: "Believe none of what your hear... and only 1/2 of what you see..."

I believe that this applies here....

Good luck...

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A female reader, Mature Lady United Kingdom +, writes (26 June 2012):

I have had experience of this with my son who two years ago married a girl he met online,they spoke to each other for about two years and she came over here from abroad where she stayed and met him twice, on her second visit they got engaged then the following year got married,since getting married he has went through some very rough times with her,she is moody and won't talk for days if she does not get her own way,has told a lot of lies to him,and I sometimes wonder how long their marriage will last.Internet dating is not the same as haveing a girlfriend in your home area that you can take out and get to know,so be very careful my son is suffering and he is only two years into his marriage

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States + , writes (26 June 2012):

So_Very_Confused agony auntDO NOT believe him.

You have only sent email

no meeting IRL

no phone calls

no texts

no skype

no contact OTHER than email?

he could not possibly love you....

and how could he know he wants to marry you...

you need to meet him IRL (in a safe public place that folks know about)

you need his name

his address

his date of birth

a phone number for him

where he works

etc.

the more info you have about him the better.

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