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How do I know if my boyfriend is cheating on me ?

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Question - (8 May 2007) 12 Answers - (Newest, 12 July 2012)
A female Egypt age 16-17, anonymous writes:

how do i know if my boyfriend is cheating on me ? and wheather or not this relationship is serious enough to continue ?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2012):

you know your boyfriends cheating on you when he says hes working late and you call where hes working and ask if hes still there if they say no then you know hes cheating. then look at his fb account and she if the was any sexual com=nversations between him and another woman

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2011):

I'm having the same problem...he chats to girls on facebook asking them to share a bed or to go for a drive in our truck, he has other email accounts that he uses to send messages to girls, I'm so cut up.....I've confronted him for over a year now and he has walked out on me each time turning the blame onto me for invading his privacy...I have run after him and got him back. He's not changing. I ask him not to chat girls up on the Internet. He says he won't but as soon as he's back on the Internet he's at it again. He even chatted up a girl on my birthday. Honestly, I must be a fool. I'm so in love with the guy, so am finding it hard to let go.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2010):

i am going threw the same thing.

my boyfriend tells me he wouldnt cheat on me becase i mean to much to him and he doesnt want to lose me or he tells me i am the one he wants to marry and im the one that he wants to have children with.

but tbh i think that is all a guilt trip because why would he be telling other girls on facebook that we anit together any more or were just friends with privalagies.

i have reallly fell in love with my boyfriend and that must make me stupid i wont say anything to him because i dont want to be the boring nagging girlfriend who wont let him have a life and go out with his friends.

i have read inboxes on facebook to his mates when there going for a night out that there on the look out for some pussy.

to be honest my boyfriend thinks he is gods gift and can pull anybody and i have proved that to him with my stupidity of putting up with his lame pathetic excuses why he didnt ring me when he was out with friends or why he didnt come home till 6 in the moring sometimes later.

me and my boyfriend dont live together he lives with his mum and i live with my nan but i stay at his house every weekend and hes comeing home and getting sex of me aswell.

i am going to confront my boyfriend on friday because i am fed up with all this and i want to no the truth.

so just be brave and confront him he might preshiat it more. dont show him that you are soft and are willing to put up with it.

GOOD LUCK HUN ..

hope you find the answers you are looking for.

and sorry about the spelling mistakes x

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2010):

I'm going throught the same exact thing. My boyfriend has a lot of secrets and I'm always trying to figure him out. i usually dont find out what he's up to until...poof... i look on his facebook page and i see comments of how he's supposed to take some girl out for lunch on his break from college. we dont go to the same college so who knows whats happening...and right about now im going insane wondering. and i dont make much of a fuss becuz i dont want to come off as the bitchy nagging girlfriend. i do it enough as it is. sigh.. guys just never get it into their fat heads that when they're in a relationship that means they're not single anymore. i'd rather be dumped than cheated on. Goodluck though.

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A female reader, Drillstat101 United States +, writes (9 October 2010):

Don't worry im going through the same thing. I feel as if he is cheating on me or just doesn't like me anymore. And if he isnt cheating on me then he is doubting our relationship, however he won't break it off because he is too afraid of later on regreting it thus making you be the one to call it off. I just wish boys were a little more talkative some times jaja honestly i don't think there is a 100% way to be sure if he is cheating on you but to catch himyourself or by making him feel so sorry that he would tell you himself. Goodluck cus i know how you feel. :]

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A female reader, SavannahLove United States +, writes (6 July 2009):

For all you girls out there whom think your boyfriend has cheated, I have some personal experience. Let me first by intervening that men are plain no common sense sometimes. Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 2 years now. Yes, I'll be honest he's driving me off the wall nuts. Ever since 2 weeks ago HE HASN'T BEEN HIS SELF! I can't quite figure it out just yet. I've noticed these key signs though. He used to ALWAYS care what I do, how I dress, who I hang out with, where I am. Now he doesn't give two shits, I don't know what happened? Also, our sexual life is from a 10 now to a 2 on a scale. Never have a once heard him say "I miss you" in the past two weeks neither. Which I thought he might have since we both started working and haven't been seeing each other as often. Latley also he has started picking up little fights for no reason and he turns into some kind of monster. He constantly thinks I'm cheating on him, can you say paranoia? Well thats my story, I feel for all the woman who have to deal with this shit day-to-day...

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2008):

I am going through the same thing. One day he's pissy the next he's fine. I have asked him before if he is cheating but he says no. Trust your gut and fish around. Until you find hard evidence don't accuse.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2007):

You know if a mans cheating on you if you always have to say i love you and if he dont even say he misses you wehn you are a part and he int as sexual as he use to be from my own exsperiance my boyfriends cheated on me with his ex's he wouldent let me even see his phone or add me to his my space or even look at it after we had sex a few times it was like the i love you's left and the i miss you's left also and exspecially his sexual attitude and he dont seem like he cares so if you can relate than i hope i had helped you ny girls with questions feel free to email me

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2007):

Usually it's when you start to ask yourself that question.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2007):

well if your boyfriend is cheating on ask him why and what did you ever do to hurt him

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2007):

You ask if serious enuff to continue.This is most important - wot do u want from relationship.it sounds as tho u doubt ur own feelings - in which case the other matter is less important.If u really love him and want a long term future then it depends wot he wants.Again if not the same as u - pointless (unless u just havin fun - which is ok if u happy with that) If u both want serious future 2gether and only then does the rst become relevant.

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A male reader, DKR United Kingdom +, writes (8 May 2007):

DKR agony auntpersonally i would say that there is no sure fire way of knowing for sure. It sounds asif you don't trust him though. A little back-ground information would be helpful. Unless you want to hire a private detective i wouldn't challanged him untill you have proof.

I do believe this is a trust issue and unless the two of you sit down and talk bout it, the reltionship may not last.

Ask him honestley if he is playing away from home, see what ansewer you get. I he says that he isn't, you have to take his word for it untill he gives you just-cause to doubt him

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