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writes:Hi guys. I ask for your help before and the response was extrememly helpful so im back again!I recently started going out with one of my closest friends. It wasn't a big deal really, almost like the next natural step to take. We used to talk for hours every day and we still do so its almost like we're best friends that really love each other. Our connection is extremely strong considering our age but theres one thing that keeps worrying me and i dont know what to do. He was worried about asking me out in the first place because he didnt want to ruin the friendship. I got a friend of mine to convince him it wouldnt in my head i just thought, if we both care so much about the friendship then there wont be a problem when we break up because we both want to be friends; this relationship will probably go very deep and last a long time. I expect we will have sex within the first 6 months just because we've known each other for so long and it feels like we've been going out the whole time. I just want to save the friendship at all costs without losing the boyfriend of my dreams.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI may have phrased the sex thing a little badly. I am not a virgin, this was not by choice i was raped a year ago. this has changed my outlook on sex considerably. i felt like a wretch and worthless after the rape because I wouldnt be able to give myself to someone I love. being with this guy, who is one of the only ppl who knows about the rape, has made me realise no matter how broken i am physically i can still give myself to him and i know i am ready. that wasnt technically part of my question.
It's been a few weeks now since we started dating and i am so glad to say that we can obviously still connect as friends, we just know when to take it up a notch. I thank you for all your words of wisdom and will defs keep coming back if i need help in the future
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): dont have sex with him within 6 months.. dont have sex with him in the first year. im sorry but i dont understand why you would think that is necessary. how old are you between 13-15?
if you are that good of friends then it wont seem any different besides you might kiss and have that connection and you might be more romantic but dont make it cheesy and dont cheat.
thats the only way i can think of that would make it weird.
i went out with a really good friend once and he cheated, called me names, pointed out every flaw, and lied about breaking up with me.
dont make it awkward.
be friends and bf/gf.
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reader, Louisee92x  +, writes (24 March 2008):
Well i got with my best friend, we was close but we finsihed we always said if we finished it would build us closer together. but it never im afraid. when i kissed him it felt wrong because i wansnt used to it. it was like it didnt mean anything. it mayb a completely different case but the firnedship hardly every gets back to normal afta a break up with your best friend. you can try. but if ur so bothered about loosing him just stay as you are x
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reader, TELLULAH + ♥, writes (24 March 2008):
 Honey!! Of course it will change things if it doesnt work out, maybe for a while. But if he's that great isnt it worth the risk.
Why do you need to put a time on when you first have sex. Your so young, cant you wait a while and just see how it pans out. You will know then, thats its worth going that bit further.
Hope it all works out for you XXX
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