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male
age
18-21,
*shawan
writes:I met a fantastic girl yesterday and we got on like a house on fire. She says she likes me and I definitely like her, and later on in the evening we said we'd meet up in a couple of weeks time when we're both free. However I am worried that in the intervening two weeks or so she may go 'off' me, so to speak- I mean we only met for a few hours, she may like me now but two weeks without seeing each other is quite a lot especially as we originally met for a short time. I'm concerned I may overdo it e.g. keep texting/MSN-ing her and she'll get annoyed, or do not enough so she would think I don't care any more. Is there a balance? Dont want to lose this one!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2008): Yes there is a balance. If you really like her, let her know! You are right not to bombard her with texts & msn as she may feel overwhelmed, particularly if she is genuinely busy. I've been back dating again recently after a break up from a long term relationship and I love it when guys mail and text me and 'chase' me but within reason..............when they start to look desperate it can be a turn off. Perhaps call her once a week for a quick chat when you think she will have the time and check when you phone that it is an ok time to talk. She will hear your voice and be reminded of the good time you had and it might make her miss you a little ... (smile). When you speak, don;t go on for too long, keep it light & friendly, flirty & try & make her laugh - women love men who make them laugh - it adds value!! (especially in the middle of a busy unfunny hard working week!). If you only met her yesterday, leave it up to 5 days to call her cos that shows you are interested but not desperate but if you leave it too long she might think you are not bothered. Be canny about choosing the time to phone as well - there is nothing worse than really looking forward to speaking to someone & then you phone them and they are busy at work, or caught at an awkward moment! If it goes well when you speak to her, tell her you'll call her next week & then on that call, you can arrange to meet up the following week. If there are text/msn contacts from her in the meantime, just go with the flow. It's lovely when a man shows he is interested so long as it is not too OTT. Good luck xx
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reader, korculan queen  +, writes (26 March 2008):
If you do not want to lose her then be confident. I would call her before the two weeks and meet up with her again. As a female I love it when a guy calls me or texts me. To me it means they are thinking of me and this is a really positive thing. I love it when my partner texts me and asks how my day was and says I hope you had a good day and even the good night texts I love. Go with your heart, if there is chemistry there and you like her then go for it tiger.
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