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How do I inform my family that I'm dating my second cousin?

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Question - (28 October 2016) 3 Answers - (Newest, 14 November 2016)
A male United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

About two years ago, I moved to the same city that my second cousin, Brooke, lives in. The rest of her family (parents and sister) and my family (parents and brother) lives back in the same town we grew up in. She is 30 years old and I am 31 years old.

About a year ago, we had a serious conversation about our feelings about each other. We both had romantic feelings for each other since we were teens. After that conversation, we decided to date each other in a exclusive relationship.

I didn't propose yet, but I asked her how she would feel about us two getting married in the future. She mentioned that she would love to marry me.

We are planning on telling our families about our relationship in November. We are looking for advice on what is the best way to break the news to our family that us two are dating each other?

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A female reader, Eagle'sfan1986 United States +, writes (14 November 2016):

So She Is Your second cousin that is not that bad. Some famous people married their cousins in the olden days. Did you and brook grow up together when your family and her family got together for family holidays and other stuff? I think you and your cousin need to break the news on dating eachother first the marriage can come latee on if your family and her's are on board of you two seeing each other.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2016):

It is not like it used to be anymore.There is not as much stigma about cousins dating as there used to be.My husband's uncle actually married his first cousin but that was years ago.My sisters in-laws are married and are cousins...for over 35 years and have three grown children.So I really would not worry if your family loves you it should be OK.Always follow your heart life is short.

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland + , writes (29 October 2016):

aunt honesty agony auntYou are both adults so you just need to be honest, are your families close? I mean some people don't even know there second cousins while others are like close family.

There is no easy way you just need to tell them and then wait to see how they react and take it from there. Be prepared for a fall out if your family is close and ask yourself is it worth causing drama will it last long term.

If you are talking marriage then leave that until your family take in the news.

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