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41-50,
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writes:Help! I have a very demanding, high maintenance friend! I am at my wits end and don't know what else to do. I really should remove myself from the friendship as I am feeling so drained but our children go to school together so I constantly have contact with her. She is very insecure and gets annoyed and hurt when I do things that don't involve her. She sulks for days on end and if feels as though we are in primary school! I would like to back away quietly but can't seem to manage it as we often get invited to the same functions and have a similar circle of friends. I have talked to her about this to no avail. I have even told her of my feelings and talked to her about issues and insecurities that I have but she really doesnt have time to listen to me when I want to talk about myself. What can I do? I need to act with dignity!
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reader, omfgbabygirl  +, writes (13 January 2011):
You might need to put yourself in her shoes: does she have any underlying issues that might need some professional attention?
You may need to be a bit firmer when it comes to your friendship, since it's a two way street. She can't expect you to listen all the time: it sounds like you're being her therapist instead of a friend.
Yes, friends help eachother when things get tough. But if it feels like she's just a piece of work, I think you need to firmly tell her how you're feeling.
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