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*ruce lee
writes:I would appreciate it if someone could give me some sound advice here. I am in a difficult situation, and I want to make women stay away from me (sexually) because I am scared that if I meet a lovely woman, she might pressure me into starting a family.Women do pressure men into doing things they don't want to do. Don't they? Men also do the same to women sometimes.So, how do I give off signals to make women stay away? Don't get me wrong, I think most women are lovely creatures. It's just that I am NOT the least bit interested in EVER starting a family.I am not making any of this up. I had a vasectomy years ago. I do not intend to change my position on this issue. But I am worried that a woman could use guilt as a weapon.When people make you feel guilty, they can screw with your mind.And I think if I ever had a kid, they might go through a fair amount of suffering one day and blame me for creating them. Does that make sense?I admit that I'm a selfish pig, but I can't think of any good reasons to have a girlfriend at the moment. Or maybe there are some good reasons but the negatives of a relationship outweigh the postives. Reply to this Question
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reader, bruce lee +, writes (16 July 2010):
bruce lee is verified as being by the original poster of the question These are very good answers. I will tell a woman (if I ever get approached) that I don't wish to have kids. And I'll memorise everything I wrote here to repeat. I am not a looker. I'm a screwed-up nutjob. I masturbate sometimes but I contradict myself by saying that I don't need women that badly.
You know, it is really embarassing buying condoms at a supermarket, but you've got to do it. Everyone looks at you when you're at the counter.
Life is full of awkward situations.
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reader, Odds  +, writes (16 July 2010):
 Depends. If you want to have relationships, but no family or kids, then you need to mention it at some point. You will have to be extremely careful, as many women will "accidentaly" forget to take the pill, or poke holes in the condom. I've even heard stories about women who will take a disposed-of condom and... yeah, you can imagine. The American NBA actually instructs its players to flush all condoms for exactly that reason. This will get more and more likely the older they are.
If you're not into relationships, just let them know you're going your own way. Politely thank them for the attention, have a nice conversation, and then move on without exchanging contact info.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (16 July 2010):
 Be honest. If you get hit on by a women tell her, no thanks. Some women will see it as a challenge though..
Good luck,
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (16 July 2010):
 Very easy...The same way you expressed yourself here, is the same way you let a woman know what you want from a relationship.
Just say what you want.
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