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How do I give a hand job ?

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Question - (10 September 2006) 28 Answers - (Newest, 11 August 2010)
A female , anonymous writes:

ok well i have a question to ask guys.

i have never givin a hand job before and this guy wants me to give him one. im totaly up to it.....but obiously i dont know how to. so told him i dident know how to, and he said he would help me out (teach me).

do guys think its lame that they need to help a girl learn how to give a hand job?

and if not that, wut do guys think?

thnx!

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A male reader, olderthandirt United States +, writes (11 August 2010):

olderthandirt agony auntNo In fact the guy loves it if he's the first to recieve palm pleasure from you and is too happy to show you how HE likes it.

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A male reader, olderthandirt United States +, writes (19 July 2010):

olderthandirt agony auntI have a terrific answer to this question...go to googl;e and type in lingham massage. This man will love you forever if you follow the instructions and for the guys, search for yoni massage everyone will be very happy tonight.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2010):

the first time i gave a handjob, he told me what felt good and pretty much taught me. it was a lot more fun that way, so let him show you :]

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2010):

Ofcourse not! My bf taught me almost everything. I'm

only 14 and he's almost 16 he taught me how to make out give him a handjob and blowjob. We have a very sexual relationship. I'm not a slut and neither are you. It's awesome though because he

will love it :)

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2010):

Ofcourse not! My bf taught me almost everything. I'm

only 14 and he's almost 16 he taught me how to make out give him a handjob and blowjob. We have a very sexual relationship. I'm not a slut and neither are you. It's awesome though because he

will love it :)

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A male reader, olderthandirt United States +, writes (5 July 2010):

olderthandirt agony auntthe absolute best way is to have him show you...since all guys are different they have different best ways- you've heard "different strokes for different folks. It can't be more true than here

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2008):

i want to give a handjob but i dont know how and i dont want to turn him down how do you do it .?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2008):

It's not really all that complicated. The first time I did I just kind of went by instinct and his responses. You get better with time, they don't expect heaven the first time.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2008):

Don't be ambarrassed

seriously, I doubt he'll care what you do as long as you don't hurt him and you have your hand on his cock.

I've given several guys hand jobs and there's not much you can do wrong. just pump up and down his shaft and pay attention to the head and underside.

and he'll tell you if he wants something else, like speed or some different technique

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2008):

ok so me and my boyfriend had been in a sexual and romantic relationship for about 2 months now and he did stuff to me and i dont mind but when he asks me to do stuff to his i feel a little ackward becuse hes my first true boyfriend who i had dont stuff with and he had other experiences and with that by itsself kind of puts me in an akward position so then he asked for a handjob and all you really need to do is have fun and just play with it and if you want to go horny for it...blow of the tip if the penis(head) lightly and it will make it feel good

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A male reader, Temujin United States +, writes (26 February 2008):

Keep in mind your 14 and hopefully hes close to that in age as well. There is no need to fell awkward. Believe me he should find it awesome that you are willing to take his instructions and do whatever makes him feel good. For a young guy like him the thought and the act of a girl actually touching his penis is probably exciting enough. Just have fun I know he will. Remember the head at the top is the most sensitive part so stroke it firmly and believe me it won't be long before that warm white sticky stuff comes spurting out, that is if hes been through puberty yet

ps I wouldn't go any farther than a handjob you are still young and have a lot of time and a lot of growing up to do. The guys around you mean well but they are very foolish and very ridiculously horny so be careful and don't do anything you don't want to do. And don't get pregnant. id advise waiting a few years to get involved in sex but if you do do anything involving your mouth or vagina wear a condom, could save your life.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2008):

Alright, well I'm 14 & I just recently gave my first handjob. I would say the very best advice there is to give is -- don't squeeze too tight;my boyfriend says that can be very painful. Use lube, it makes it easier to slide your hand up&down. Just move your hand up&down, slow at first -- pick up speed gradually. Goood luck ;)

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2008):

Grab the top of his penis (The head) Making sure your first two fingers are on his head, and the bottom two are underneath. Twist a little if he has foreskin, Tightening the foreskin by spinning it increases the pleasure. Then slowly at first move up and down, squeezing tightly, Not to twisted or tight to cause pain! Watch out for that.

just keep doing like that, fast every so often, then nice and slow and work your way back up to fast.

For some added pleasure, with your thumb on the other hand, put pressure on the spot in between his anus and balls, and use the other four fingers to grasp the base of his penis, You'll have him cumming in no time

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2008):

Hey girl...

Heres some basic tips:

if its ur 1st time you need to feel comfortable with your surroundings... try dimming the lights

HAVE FUN he'll love it

tyr moving up and down his dick to a beat of a song then just pick up the pace in the 2nd verse

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A female reader, ILCL13 United States +, writes (5 February 2008):

Hey gurl you shouldn't worry about that to much. Trust me I know how you feel that is why I looked up this sight in the first place. Because I don't understand if I am giving the hand job or blow job right because they dont seem satisfied when I am done. I have even lied and made up reasons why not to do those things because I am scared I wont do it right.

~Shorty~

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2008):

my girl friend does it two different ways

first way

get allot of saliva on two or three of your fingers

take those fingers and start rubbing the head and play with the hole

try to keep masaging the head as you move your hand up and down the penis

keep a firm grip on it as you move your hand up and down really fast

second way

put your mouth around the head and start licking the head very firmly

start to move your hand up and down very fast

he may cum in your mouth, but there is no better feeling than that

even if you do not want him to

you should let him

it will be the best handjob he has every had

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2008):

There is no way that this is LAME!!! My girlfriend and I love this activity as part of our sex life!!! We worked together and she has now reached EXPERT level. Make sure you visit the hand-job-advice web site below, great information!!! The ongoing communication between the two of you is the most important element, he will love to help you learn and will ALWAYS enjoy you talking yourself through the "job". See the website and get to work!!!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2008):

Its ok and no i dont believe it is lame. I had to help my girlfriend out the first time and it was fine i found it quite inocent of her

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2007):

Theres not much to get wrong. Just have fun, touch it rub it and feel around. he'll soon tell you what feels good, and what makes him cum. i had to teach my my girl and now shes an expert. Leaning can be fun, so just relax and have fun. its also good to include the testicles. GOODLUCK!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2007):

My boyfriend tried to explain this to me once. I felt really awkward when one day I had no idea what a hand job even was, and the next I had read up on what to do. He said he found it really sexy and cute what I was willing to do for him. I agree with what this last guy says, it worked on my boyfriend, and he's told me I've done amazing. I still asked him what he'd like me to do, and he lead me step-by-step. I think that made it even more amazing, and an even better experience. Also... don't forget to look into their eyes with the sexiness... build that up baby! Show a little smile every once in a while.. and good luck! It'll go fine, and if he really cares about you, a little discomfort won't matter. Hope this helped!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2007):

I know exactly what your going through.

When I was in the 6th grade my bestfriends (obiviously they were guys) raped me. They made me do all this stuff that scared the living shit out of me.. but the only thing they didnt make me do was a hand job.

So i personaly dont know how to give one also

I hope you figure out how=]

Now my boyfriend want me to give him a hand job and i really wish that those guys in 6th grade made me or showed me how=]

Good Luck=]

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2007):

No, us guys don't think it's lame, we enjoy teaching ladies how to give us a handjob, he may or may not have you use lube when you do it, preferably something edible in case he or you decide to finish off with you sucking while stroking

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A female reader, faith scott boreanaz United Kingdom +, writes (13 September 2007):

 faith scott boreanaz agony auntyour in luck 8D

The hand job is one of my specialities. Hold your guys penis at the base, its best if you have lube, use more if your guys quite hairy. Half of what makes a handjob great is technique but the other half is all attitude - if you get that right and the technique perfect you can make your guy multiple orgasm.

use your eyes to get across some sort of sexy message or use them to say your really turned on - most guys find the "sexy eyes" very hot. you can say things like "God your cocks big" or "Fuck your penis is so delicous" - you can tease that last one with licking the shaft of the penis up to the head. Add new twists, keep him guessing what your gonna do next.

Ask him what he likes you to do and Dont feel imbarressed! it happens to the best of us. if you want more hand job advice just email me. Faith.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2007):

First of all, there's nothing wrong with not knowing how. No one is born with knowing how...even guys. It takes us practice.

There's a good website at http://www.handjobadvice.com that shows all kinds of techniques. Nothing x-rated on the site, women using dildos to show it but very educational.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2006):

[laughs] Reminds me of this comic strip:

http://www.leasticoulddo.com/index2.php?date=20060519

Well, lube is nice. If he has foreskin, pull it back gently, and hold it in place with one of your hands at the base of his penis, then with your other hand, hold his rhubarb loosely, and move your arm up and down, as if you are churning butter - I guess you wouldn't know what that looks like. Hmmm... I can't think of anything that resembles a hand job. Imagine your hand as your mouth, bop it up and down... Faster as he nears cumming. Keep going when he's bursting his load. Close your eyes in case his soldiers shoot wildly every where. 8D

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2006):

...if this guy cares about you he wont think it silly that u need to be "taught" the first time i gave a handjob my boyfriend had to guide me through it...its not hard atall, pull back his foreskin...and gently but firmly move your hand back and forwards along his penis...ask the guy to show you, it will help, especially for the future! lol. good luck x x

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A male reader, David Lewis United Kingdom +, writes (10 September 2006):

David Lewis agony aunt" this guy wants me to give him one. im totaly up to it....."

Is this guy your boyfriend?

Going by your post, I would say you were very young, maybe too young to engage in this just yet.

This guy offers to help! I think he is more concerned in being wanked off rather than educating you. He sounds selfish to me.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2006):

Hi

I cant see nothing wrong with it.And dont feel embaressed about not having done one before.He will probally guide you and start you off and then once he is ready he will let you take over.He will let you know whats what and if hes comfortable with your technique.Basically just dont go too fast to start with and dont grip too tightly and you will be fine and if he wants the pace picking up he will let you know. ;-)

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