A
female
age
30-35,
*oeismeanyou
writes:More guy troubles/ rant! Let's call his guy M. M and I have been seeing each other for a while now. For a while now, I've been feeling like I'm nothing but a booty call to him. I just want to hang out with him and everytime he initiates sex. Don't get me wrong, the sex is great, but I want more than that. There was a few times where he would beg me to go to his house, and on numerous occasions, I would say no. I also told him that he made me feel like just a booty call to him and he got upset and said it was more than that.Anyways, today I have half the day off. This week I've been working my tail off and I need some time by myself. He texted me (after almost a month from not hearing from him) asking for me to come over and saying his phone broke, again. I told him I wanted to be alone today and he once again started to beg. I have no clue what to do about him other than break things off. If I break things off with him? How do I get things to work and get him to listen? What should I do?
View related questions:
booty call, text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (24 October 2015):
 I don't think you can make a guy listen who ISN'T listening or really caring.
For him, being in a relationship means that the GF drops whatever she is doing and comes running when HE calls.
In a month, (while his phone was supposedly broken) he never bothered trying to contact you? And then he expects you to drop everything and go see him.. IT sounds like a pretty one-sided relationship to me - though of course YOU could have trued to contact him as well in that months so you aren't all that invested or serious about him either... are you?
Sound like neither of you really know what a relationship is all about and are settling for someone to have sex with and text.... instead.
A
male
reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (24 October 2015):
 Explain to him that this is the day you set aside to rearrange your sock drawer and he'll just have to take matters into his own hands.
...............................
A
male
reader, Xearo  +, writes (24 October 2015):
There are guys out there who can listen but to me it is not really listening but rather taking initiative on matters other than sex, ie, everything else that isn't sex.
I usually thought people in america would simply die if their phone broke for a month - it's relatively hard to believe he had no phone without a month.
Anyway, you deserve more / better and you wont get it from this guy because he gets his sex and you don't get what you want, and so it continues. I wouldn't know how to get him to listen like you want because if he can go a month without contacting you then are you even a relationship?
...............................
|
