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writes:Any advice on getting over a pointless crush before it sabotages future relationships?I still have the hots for a guy (henceforth known as Fail) I was very briefly involved with just over six months ago. Next weekend I have a date with a new guy (McDreamy perhaps? Even though the reference makes me cringe), and I'm worried that the fact that I still have a crush on Fail will make me sabotage myself.Basically, Fail kept pushing for a more serious relationship, then once I agreed, started avoiding me. He'd still make plans, call me, make sure I had him on my mind, then cancel at the last minute. I called him on this, and after a few lies and attempts at manipulation, he admitted that he wanted to pursue other people. I told him that we should end things, and he agreed, but insisted that we stay in touch as friends, because I meant something to him (yeah, I really didn't buy that at the time either). Once that was settled, he continued to make plans, call me, make sure I had him on my mind, then cancel at the last minute. He also made a really poor attempt at a booty cal on Valentine's day, which prompted me to cut off all contact. We very rarely bump into each other even though our city is small.I feel ridiculous about it because it lasted only 1.5 months, it was over 6 moths ago, Fail is clearly an idiot, and I deserve better. I guess my pride keeps me from admitting (to Fail or anyone else) that I still like him, and common sense keeps me from actually contacting him, but looks like I got it bad. I should also add that he has another girlfriend, so this is doubly ridiculous. My pride may be taking a hit on that one. How do I get him off my mind before my date with McDreamy? I don't want these feelings to sabotage my date, or make me use McDreamy as a way to get over Fail.
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reader, saltwater  +, writes (21 July 2008):
 I once had a, well, complete fixation with a girl (McNightmare) when it was clearly never going to work....but I still thought about her a lot.
Cut a long story of lusting after said girl aside, I met someone else who I was actually compatible with and viola...I never thought of McNightmare again.
You think of McFail because you haven't met anyone else yet -- though I bet if you meet McDreamy (good name ;-)) you will soon forget all about McFail and wonder what all the fuss was about!
You won't ruin the date I'm sure. Have a good time!!
Good luck
By the way, you shouldn't have started using the Mc prefix, I've got a bit carried here, and I'm probably going to spend the next hour thinking of new Mc names!
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