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How do I get over the break up of my first relationship?

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Question - (31 March 2015) 2 Answers - (Newest, 1 April 2015)
A male Gabon age 18-21, anonymous writes:

I was with my ex girlfriend for 6 months and about 4 months ago to this day we broke up. She broke up with me because she didn't want to be held down or this committed at this age (she's 17 I'm a few months older so I'm 18).

I saw in one of her chats with her friends where said for the last few months we were together we weren't in a relationship and she's tired of being with me out of pity. This being my first relationship I don't know how to get over this. Any advice for me?

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A male reader, CMMP United States + , writes (1 April 2015):

It's easy, just remind yourself that there are many more women to come, ones that are much more suited to you.

If this relationship was meant to work it would have.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2015):

Obviously it's always hard when a relationship ends, especially in your case where it really is her and not you, however I have been in a situation similar to hers, feeling very committed at a young age. It is possible that you were her first boyfriend, and as she's growing in maturity and gaining more independence a whole world is opened up to her that she feels she needs to explore. i think it's important to see this as an opportunity, you are 18 now and an adult, you have the opportunity to experience so many new things, you don't want to be held back by someone who doesn't want to be with you. And I'm sorry to be the one to admit it, but girls just try to justify everything, she says she was with you out of pity? I doubt that's strictly true, I expect everything was more exciting at the beginning and as time went on she realised you just didn't have enough in common. If I was your friend I would be bitching about her with you, but you need to understand that despite the fact the relationship is over you still have all the wonderful qualities that attracted her to you in the first place. You are at an important time in your life, losing her is a part of growing up. Focus on becoming an adult, on your studies or work, on sorting your life out. That way when the right girl comes along you'll be ready.

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