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writes: How can help my daughter,to respect herself more?I see, she would do anything for getting a friend, including flattering and favors. I see she has some really nasty ''mean girls'' friend, who would never approve her,and she is endlessly running after them.It makes me sad to see that,as she is very nice and smart,yet it is a long lasting prolem between me and her. I would say her ;;can't you see they are just using you, or how badly they treat you, but she never seem to listen.I think, she humilating herself, and she never seem to learn.How can I help her without hurting her, or not make things worst?I just want her to be proud to herslef,and stop giving things to those who does not deserve it?Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2009): Hi......i think the answer to this is role models..
At the moment she is seeing hanging out with these girls as 'cool' and even though they are using her is still prepared to put up with it because of being with the 'in' crowd.
It may be a good idea to try and get her to pursue an additional interest, maybe horse riding or a sport or whatever really. It is likely by doing this she will meet 'nicer' people and start to see them as people to look up to....maybe pay for her and one of her better friends to go?
But definetely dont suggest you and her go there together - in her mind that is not cool! Try to lay off criticising her friends while supporting her better interests
Good Luck!
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (29 June 2009):
 As you know, teen years is a very confusing time for everybody. Only after reading self growth books was I able to put a bit of light into that confusing cloud.
Since we don't always say everything to our parents, she might find answers to some of her problems, of which you don't know of, in those books. (There's always something you don't tell your parents about.)
Here's 3, in order of which to read them, that I would recommend for a start.
1. Success for TEENS book by the editors of the SUCCESS
3. Personality PLUS by Flaurence Littaur
2. The Magic of Thinking Big by David Schwartz
I would recommend for you to read those books before handing it out to your daughter. Why? Because it's best to lead by example and for you to experience for yourself the knowledge found in those books and it will be easier for you to refer them to your daughter.
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