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writes:I'm 18 and I started talking to this boy on tinder last month (he's 18 too). We added each other on whatsapp and were talked frequently and then met. Afterwards he messaged me saying all these nice things and how perfect I was. We were talking pretty much constantly for 3 weeks after that. He was always talking about how close we were and how he would never hurt me etc, and we were best friends. He even had my picture as his phone background! We met again yesterday and went shopping everything was fine, then the last half hour he was quieter (he just started working at a club where he finishes work at 4am so i just assumed that he was tired after a long day shopping and a bit bored because its shopping!)I said "you don't like shopping, do you?" and he said especially not when he's tired so I just thought that was the reason. He waited for my train with me (being quiet again) and then got up and left and said "Bye, I'll see you whenever..." and we parted ways.I kind of expected him to message me straight after he left but he didn't message he the whole night. It is 8pm the following day and still no contact. I sent him a whatsapp message and it's only one tick (meaning he has not recieved my message and he might have possibly blocked me?) I went on facebook to message him to see that he has unfriended me. He unfollowed me on instagram too! I sent him a snapchat (which he has not yet opened) and a text message which he has not replied to. I tried phoning him, it rang about 5 times and then went to voice mail.I'm so confused I don't understand what I did wrong I feel so heartbroken and I don't want to lose him as a friend. I don't know what to say!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (9 March 2015):
 You did nothing wrong.
It's just... you met him on Tinder !, were you expecting the love of your life from there ? the way you get them is the way you lose them, he may have met other ten,twenty girls on there and found that that he has no time and energy to hang out with them all. Ar his age guys are particularly fickle and his interest has probably transferred to new entries.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (9 March 2015):
 You did nothing wrong. He is seeing someone else.
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (9 March 2015):
Maybe he has a gf? From what you say you didn't do anything wrong. Just write the guy off and keep looking. You didn't lose much.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (8 March 2015):
 My guess? YOU didn't do ANYTHING wrong.
He either was REALLY tired or... he was talking to multiple girls and decided one of the other girls were ma better fit than you.
If you already left a voice message and a message on whatsapp - don't contact him any further.
And honey, in the future don't be so naive. When a guy spills all these:" I will never hurt you" and "we are best friends" after LESS then a month? He is FEEDING you lines. You don't really KNOW this guy. He doesn't KNOW you. Not after 3 weeks.
I'd say let it go. Move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2015): Oo gee the workings of the teenage mind .. ti begin with, it's nothing you've done sweetie and if it were he should at least give you an opportunity to put it right . You may never get an answer to this q's . When he said I see you whenever that was kinda a big red flag that something was a miss . The same with the quietness . Let him contact you ..that would be my advice . Have a girls night out . Buy a new dress . Get your hair done . And give yourself time .
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